Skip to main content

96. How to stay more far from your ex partner?

The worst thing anyone can do after breakup is to involve with best friend or family member of ex partner. That looks as kind of incest and more people could be hurt.

Breakup is painful thing and people don't see clear after broken relations, many ask for comfort on wrong place. Just is it reasonable to date with your ex boyfriend's brother, sister, mother or best friend, people who are closely connected with your ex love?

Before you start something with person who is close to your ex partner, think about this:

- they can gossip you and compare notes
- you will meet your ex partner more than you think
- you can break your present relation from the same reasons which caused your previous breakup

Rita was really hurt after relation with Edgar. He was playboy and he even slap her in publicity. After their breakup, she became close to his best friend Alan. Alan was opposite character, or she thought so. When they met Edgar on birthday party, Edgar insulted Rita in front of Alan. That time, Alan did not say a word to protect her. He was afraid of Edgar and Rita passed through disappointment again.

When two people belong to same family, as two brothers, this situation is unpleasant. They rise together, they have same habits and also there is competition. Blood is not water, and two brothers or two sisters will support each other even in situation when this is not expected. The same is with two best friends, if they cherish their friendship for a years, they will share secrets and mutual partner can be someone who stuck between two fires. When they should choose, they might support friend before than partner. 

Imagine situation, you date with pretty girl, you split and for few months you want her sister? Then she will invite you at home for Thanksgiving day? Somehow, it will not be happy family gathering. More, that reminds on Jerry Springer show, where everyone accuse other for troubles, and they use fists to justify their rights.

When you get out from unhappy relation, it is better to be as far as you can from your ex partner. 

You don't want to wake up in bed when your partner eat breakfast with his brother who was also your boyfriend. You don't want to share table with your ex boyfriend and your sister, and for sure you don't want to celebrate your best's friend birthday together with your former boyfriend.

Some connections are as chain, if one part breaks, whole chain will be ruined. If you open new door let this be more far from old door. If you burn bridge, don't pass there anymore if is not necessary. 

I know, love doesn't ask for reasons, but your situation will be more complicated if you decide to have something with someone who is close to your ex partner. Some other relations will be broken and you might even stay isolated. 

Popular posts from this blog

Women are not weak as they look

Where is a fight, there is love. Since childhood opposite genders tease each other, make conflicts and argue, just to compare their mental strength. Men are strong gender by nature, but many of them underestimate woman’s will and character. Some judgments define a woman as fragile, sensitive creature, and the man who is educated in the traditional family will often underestimate a woman. He will see the weak creature in the corner with a face full of tears. Well, a woman can defend herself in thousand ways. She will seduce you to obey you. She will pretend weakness just to take revenge on you if you humiliate her. Be ready for her trick as on poker table. Especially men who are used to silent, obedient woman can’t count on such resistance. Remember, the woman is the one who is working and clean house after work, carry for kids and for your laundry and your meal. Women are multi-tasking, so how can they be weak? When you fall in love with a woman who can care for herself, she doesn’t …

Are you the hunter or the kill?

Criticism is a sensitive field. It is easy to give critics, to mock someone, but it is not easy to receive this in return and to make a joke by yourself. Do you laugh at yourself, in public? Do you allow friends to tease you, even this means that they will overrate your faults and make your values smaller? There is a thin line between social clown and person who loves to make jokes about yourself. If you are a hunter, if you respect yourself, you will allow the certain dose of criticism but you will not be a doormat. If you ask me to whom you must be grateful, maybe my answer will surprise you. Yes, i am grateful to my parents because they give me motivation, strong will, and attitude. I am grateful to my sister because she stood on my side when i felt miserable. I am grateful to my husband for accepting me as i am, even when i was the worst nightmare. Mostly, i am grateful to my rivals, to develop my strength. As i passed my initiation, faced with many troubles and get out from bigg…

Are you grateful for the things you have ?

Are you grateful for the things you have in your life? I don’t think about furniture or new plates, i think about your private and professional life. Sometimes, we forget to save gratitude in our heart because our mind is too busy by dreaming about something we still did not realize. Gradation looks like this: I don’t have boyfriend. I have boyfriend but we are not married. We are married but we don’t have kids. We have only one child. Our kid is not obedient, we have problematic teenager.
In professional plan, we can use same pattern: I am studying and i don’t have job. I have job but my salary is small. I have good salary but i have no free time. I have job but my boss is dictator. It is about human nature, where all are rivals, competitors and opponents. Why your neighbor owe expensive car, and you are going at work with bus? Why your kids can’t have designers clothes? Why your friend has bigger flat then you? We are dreaming because of our ambitions. It is not bad, i am also ambiti…