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224. Nostalgia - seductive liar





It was better before. I remember how we had fun and smile. These times will never come back. 
If you use any of this sentences, it means you are nostalgic. You regret for past times and you want jump into time machine to be there again. 
Usually, people became nostalgic by ages. When someone can't fit in new trends or changes, result will be flashback. Often we can heard from elder people how much they were respected before. Also, if old woman look into her photo album, she will say : " I was so beautiful, look at me now."

Nostalgia is delusional feeling. It is not true that it was better before, maybe is easier to remember something what makes you smile, to handle daily routine on better way. Indeed, people who lives in past are not progressing.


The main question about nostalgia is: "If that time was so awesome, why it did not continue?" 

This is the same feeling as when you have breakup with your love. You remember her smile and her long hair, her jokes and how you woke up every morning with her. This past movie is spinning in front of your eyes. Your memories are so alive that you cry. You remember how that guy kissed you and gave you surprises for your birthday, how you feed swans with him.

Nostalgia is a liar. You remember good things and forget bad. If you live in past, you stuck on sweet memories. Did you forget how that girl spent all your money without your knowledge about it? You don't remember when this sweet guy cheated you?

Nostalgia appears in bad circumstances. 

So, now i feel bad and i will regret for past times. It can make situation worse. Let's look better into future. Past is black, present is grey, but maybe future is pink. Remove this curtain of nostalgia, your view is too foggy.
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