226. Life in gloves





Person who is afraid of other reactions and opinions is not free. There is saying "he walks on eggs", as metaphor for his behavior. Be careful what you say. What will people think about you? Don't yell, don't laugh loud, don't cry in publicity. Pay attention how you act because people can judge you. 

It is normal that we are connected with environment where we live, and society made some rules. No, you can't walk naked on the street unless you don't want to be in prison or in mental hospital. You can't hit people with bottles because you don't like them. That is violent act. 

Insecure person will always take care of other opinions. Wear gloves in interactions with others because that is safe. Well, it is not right and also it is impossible to please everybody. 

For example, your parents are traditional people . They believe in God. What if you find girlfriend who is an atheist? How you can represent her to your family? If you are coward or conformist you will think first about yourself. Well, it doesn't fit in so you will leave her or suggest that she can be your mistress. So this is easier way, you will hide your passion and everybody are happy. Wolf is not hungry, sheep is still alive, both sides made agreement.

If you have character and your principles, you will say clear that you love your girlfriend and that you think serious about life with her, no matter if your parents are against. You can be isolated and in some cases maybe your parents will not talk with you, but you decided to defend your choice. 

Even compromise in such situation looks like an ideal solution, this is not right. If you hide your girlfriend from publicity, she will be unhappy, she will be humiliated and soon her bad mood will forward on you. You can't hide someone as rat in rat hole. That girl can feel as Ana Karenjina , as woman without honor. 

In generally, we can't say that we don't care for anybody and that only our opinion is important. We care for people who are close to us and their support is valuable for us. Just, think about bad influence on your life if you choose to please everybody. You will have thousand friends and everybody will ask favor from you because you will not deny. Then also you must have chameleon abilities, to change accord other wishes. One day you will be tough guy, other day you are romantic and soft, depends what people are asking from you.

That gloves you wear became too tight, isn't it? You are choking because you have no space for your needs. 


What you wish? What are your priorities? 

Listen what other people talk, but do accord your wishes and principles. Find this balance in situations which are important for you, because you are the one who will live with consequences of your acts. 
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