305. Don't be second violin
One day you looked yourself in the mirror and realize that you were just stage in someone's life. Even worse, that every your relation was indeed transit zone and other people gone when they take from you what they needed. You had this role of teacher, surrogate or substitution, until real woman come to finish the story. As in theater, where whisperer reminds main actors what to say, you were here to keep other's place warm.
The role of whisperer is full of sacrifices, and the worst part is wasting of time. You gave someone your youth, your best edition, and he gone to replace you with other woman. Now she has all benefits you did not have, but you invested all your energy to get this man. Also an opposite, man who spend many years with woman will be unhappy if she just vanish from his life and get marry to someone else.
Lydia was one of this girls who always catch flowers at weddings but never get marry. She followed all her friends in the way to marriage, and everybody asked her when is her turn. She was eternal girl in pink dress, who will take care for best friend bride to get safe on her destination. She met Jeffrey when she lost hope in love. Then she was 40 years old. Jeffrey was little younger than Lydia, but her life energy fascinated him. She was so disappointed in love that she attacked him at first date how he wish to take an advantage. Lucky, Jeffrey was persistent and he did not want to let her go. For six months she finally get married.
What is role of teacher indeed?
You will prepare your partner for maturity. All his failures will be expressed in relation with you, later he will not repeat this. So if you waited 10 years to get marry for him, next girl will wait probably just 6 months.
You will teach him some experiences. Maybe he will lose virginity with you or how to dance with woman. Next time he will do this without help.
You will punish him if he do mistakes, so this punishment will be lesson for the future. On this way you shown him areas which are not recommended to enter, like infidelity or saying woman that she looks fat. With next partner, he will walk on eggs. You give him red light of warning.
Not every teacher is a victim. If you play your role so magnificent, your ex will remember you for the rest of his life.
Some teachers are saints, because every next partner will be compared with them.
My ex fiance was an angel. I can't fall in love after her. My ex husband was perfect man, but he died too early.
Some teachers are here for lifetime.
I get married with girl who taught me how to make love. I did not want to ask more.
Some teachers are threats and it is hard to forget them.
My ex wife was a witch. I still feel hurt by her acts. What if i meet someone as her again?
Until you are whisperer, you did not solve your private status. How can you be sure? Ask some benefits from your partner, so you will know is your status forever or just temporary. You don't want to be an episode in his life? Tell him you will go away to whisper to someone else. If he did not hear your whisper, raise your voice.