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How to get out from crises?

Black thoughts - that is familiar to all of us. Life brings us moments where we don't see way out. Bad events are connected in a chain, so sometimes you will be in kind of temptation. You are an experimental rabbit, so can you handle this?

Scott lost his job and broke with a girlfriend at the same time. Then he got sick and depressed. He would get up in the morning, drink a cup of coffee and it was all that he could do. The rest of time he was staring in the window like he expects high forces to help him. He was not even religious, so he hoped that some alien will come on Earth, with a spaceship to bring him out of here. Scott went to the gym to make his body more strong. He did not find friends here, guys were pretentious, they had muscles and Scott was skinny like the girl. Then he invited his friend to go out, but he was too busy and he could not promise him when this will happen. Maybe never.

So days were passing, Scott could not find a new job, girls were rejecting him and he became suicidal. He drinks pills but not enough to kill himself, he was just vomiting. Then he cut himself but he was not enough brave to cut deeper. His mother saw that something is wrong with him, so she said this:

"I don't want to cry with you or to judge you. Life is sometimes cruel. But, do you really want that others laugh at you? It is easy to give up on everything. I remember the different guy, now I don't know who you are."

Scott was sad and furious. Mother was right. He throws all pills into the toilet, all bottles of alcohol in garbage box and he runs again into the gym. He was exercising one hour every day and sweating until he felt better. One day he met his old friend Glen, who also joined in the gym. Glen said: "Buddy, you look stronger. How much time you spent here?" After that, they went to drink beer and talk about old days. 

Day by day Scott feels how he is progressing. At the moment he needs to make a decision about a job, he got some positive answers on his appeals. Girls start to notice him and he had few dates.

When you drown in a black hole, it is so easy to let it go. 

Why you will not give up?

If you give up, others will laugh to you. Do you want to see how they laugh and call you loser?

Others will pity you. Human sympathy is killer of pride and dignity.

You will never have a chance to woke up and see how the situation is changing.

Who can't handle defeat, doesn't deserve to drink champagne after the victory. This path is full of thorns.

Black days are challenges. Life is not smooth ground, that you can dance with favorite music. Sometimes, life creates terrible rattle and noise. You must face it with this.

Who are your best friends in troubles?

People who will give you critics.

People who will tell you to face it with reality.

People who will not sit and cry with you. They can be even harsh or slap you.

You need a hand if you are sinking, but this safe belt is not your savior. The most things you will do alone when you find energy refill inside of you. If you think that fake promises or hopes will help you, you are wrong. Sometimes, the person who yells at you is your best friend. Look yourself in the mirror and admit that you are a loser at the moment. This is just present, tomorrow you will wake up as the winner if you accept one condition. You should not give up.

Today is rain, but the sun will shine tomorrow or in the future. Until you wait for the sun, help yourself with own umbrella.

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