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How to develop guts?

Until the world is here, violence will be reality. Aggressive people are everywhere, no matter about gender, race, age or religion. Violence is instinct inside and such person is pushed to do bad things to others. Targets are weak people, those who don't show intention to defend themselves or who are afraid to show resistance.
The main problem about violence is not strength which some nasty dude shown. Problem is in silence and lack of guts. So when someone says : "You don't have bolls", message is that you are chicken who can't do nothing to stop violence.

Elaine was victim of bullying. She was pretty so guys started to touch her when she was 13. First she was crying and fighting with them, but they were in majority, and other girls were even jealous, so they declared her as little slut. Mostly, her friends did not want to involve. It was unbearable after six months in class with bullies, so Elaine reported them to headmaster. Lucky for her, headmaster was woman without compromise. She punished guys and even they threat to Elaine, she was safe after this actions. 

If someone is bully in childhood, there is big possibility that he will do mobbing at work or domestic violence toward his family members. So much cases are not reported by women, because they afraid to tell what happens in their home. 

Why people have mouth closed even violence is present?

Safety. They afraid it can be worse. Woman can lose financial support, children will lose father.

Fear from bigger damage. This guy beats his wife, but she afraid that he will kill her in case of report.

Reaction of society. Maybe majority will not support you. For example, in Saudi Arabia, if woman is raped, that is her fault.

Odds between aggressor and victim. Maybe more people support violent guy, and you will be guilty.

Desire for fake peace. People will not involve because they want to avoid drama. Indeed that peace is not real.

Violent person is hungry for power, and until he has approval of others, he will do bad actions. 

Once when someone reply on properly way, that person will show weakness. It is easy to do harassment and abuse of others until they are quiet. For example, guy from high school will beat his friends, but when bigger guy slap him, he will be down. From that moment, everyone can kick his ass.

Interesting area of violence is internet. Even in internet some people will avoid fights.

Who will expose fake profiles in some groups? Who will tell to friend that other friend is cheating him? There is no much people who will do this. They will tell, it is not my business. Or, they will afraid to lose affection of others.

Courage is expression of attitude. Person who really has guts will not give a credit to bully. There are many ways to finish abuse. This is risk, but hazard is to leave situation like this.

If you expose violent person, if you defeat him or her, you may not find many approvals from others. But, people will secretly admire to you, because you did something what they are only thinking about.

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