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The race without the winner

Life is an exam and every person will get different questions. We will compare with each other, because competition race is in human nature. While you are unhappy because someone is more successful than you, think about, how much you know about others and their problems?

Fashion magazines will offer ideal of woman beauty, even photo shop is behind it. Teenage girls will feel frustrated because they are too fat to reach modern standards. They forget miracle of technology and many trick how to look perfect on the photo. You don't walk in their shoes and you don't know about their bulimia and anorexia problems , because on the cover of magazine is fantastic face with smile and shining eyes. 

When you start to compare yourself to others, this is beginning of identity lost. Someone is also envious on something you have. We can see this from example.

Two guys from Croatia, Dario and Robert are peers.  They were studying on the same university and they graduated the same year. After 13 years, Dario changed few good jobs, everywhere he got high position and his salary is bigger and bigger with every promotion. Meanwhile, he got married and he is parent of one son.

Robert is also employed, but as civil servant. His salary is average and he has no interest for promotion because he doesn't want to work at weekends and overtime. He is engaged with his girlfriend and they have wedding plans. Robert is big fan of  parties with trance and house music, so there is no event without him. He spend his money to travel around when he is free and together with his girlfriend he enjoys in life.

Some people think that Dario is perfect businessman, mature guy who knows what he wants from life. He is settled down and very serious. Other people think that he is indeed boring and that his wife must yawn every time in his presence. Also his bags under eyes are invisible from the plane. He never sleeps good because of his responsibilities. He must take care not to get drunk because someone could see him and his reputation would be down. He must wear suit and tie every day , together with his professional smile and kindness. 

When you compete with someone else, you are showing weakness. This is race with yourself. Your neighbor has good car, so you will buy it too. Your friend has expensive shoes, so you must buy this too. 

When you wish to progress, the best competitor is inside of you. 

You can upgrade yourself on higher level without compare with others. If you try to walk in others shoes, it may be uncomfortable for you. When you walk on your path, your results will be good because that is your area. If you compete with someone else, you take a risk. You will buy BMW because your bank give you credit, but later it can cause you financial troubles, because you wanted to compete. 

Little girl in childhood wanted to grow up fast. She wear mother's dress and put her makeup. Result was shocking, her cheeks were red and eyes were twice bigger, so she had style of Indian warrior.
The same will happen if you compete with someone who is out of your league. He is too high for you and you can copy him, but people will recognize you as fake or poor. This is race without winner, because your role model don't know that you wish to follow him.

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