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335. Memory box

We can love people on many different ways. Sometimes i wish to hug person to express my devotion and affection. My internal instinct never lie, so on first sight i can see that something is not good or an opposite, when i feel how someone can fit in my life. Good memories are for sure reminder in our heart, accord previous experiences we can see what went wrong, and what was good.

Memories are not always nice. If you close eyes and think about person from your past, you will be surrounded with flood of feelings. Yes this guy made me so angry and sad, i felt even sick and i don't wish to see him anymore. Delete button would be good tool in real life, if we could erase bad memories from our brain and take place only for something nice. 

On other hand, bad memories are teachers. 

How we can use bad memories from recycle bin and made something good in future?

Take it as lesson. You were blind, so this will help you to open your eyes.

Don't repeat old mistakes. This will remind you on this.

Remember what was wrong then, and make an opposite.

Forgive to others because this is only way to forgive yourself.

Don't think about past because it makes you frozen. Jump over it.

Bad memories are corpses, and we need to bury them , deep in the ground. 

What is with nice memories which made us nostalgic? Can we bring back our nice past times?

Recently i heard story about woman who married for guy from her past. They were together in youth, but their ways separated and they get married for other people. Meanwhile, her husband died and guy get divorced from his wife. So they are now together again. 

When we started our new stories based on memories, that story will not be the same. Times changed and people are changed. We are not the same anymore. We learn, grow, forgive, forget, but we are more mature. 

Nadine and Jack hurt each other in the past. They were madly in love, but circumstances were hard. She loved him, but her heart was unstable. She liked to flirt and her love toward herself was her cross. She could not decide between Jack and other guys. Also, Jack wanted harmony because his life was not perfect, he had problems at work and he could not find peace in his relation with Nadine. One day Nadine said to him that she must travel in another city for a two weeks. He was angry and he said that he will probably leave her. That really happened, when she came back , Jack was with another girl, with Laura. She was silent, cute and gentle, like delicate flower, and Jack found his peace with her. Nadine was desperate, she get drunk and her nerves broke. She even went to shrink to recover herself. 

After few months Nadine collected courage to look Jack in the eyes. Meanwhile he left Laura because he get bored with her. Next days were progress for Nadine, because she started to talk with Jack, but as friends. They realized that they did not talked during their relation , they just had quarrels and wild nights. Now Nadine had chance to know his personality, his needs and views, because now she listened him with both ears. Also, Jack became much stronger. He was not so sensitive on every harsh word from Nadine, as before. He was cool and calm, and Nadine start to admire to him. Now they are friends because nobody wants to get rush. Nadine is afraid that Jack will reject her, and Jack is afraid not to be hurt as before. They are waiting next steps from each other, or some circumstances which will connect them again.

No matter how we feel and what we expect from old memories, we must stay firm on the ground. 

Something was nice and we wish to repeat that. Maybe this wish will be realized, maybe not. One thing is sure, don't make damage to your memories. Lock them in the box if you want to save this treasure, but don't make them dirty. 

The worst thing you can do is to blame someone from your past with words :"You did not do nothing for me. " In this way, you close all options that person will ever give you second chance.

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