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336. Fading like a flower





When people fall in love, someone is always in advantage. That belongs to person who love less on first sight. In this circumstances, such person has slow reactions, heart is locked and self control is on the highest level. Other half in this couple is more sensitive, fragile and more available as emotional target. 

The same happens when people start to chill out from romantic blindness. Person who chill out first is also in advantage. Yesterday she was crazy about you and she did not notice your bad breath, short legs or not so slim belly. Today she said that you should wash teeth more often, that you are not so fit and that she can't get horny on you. So when we love even monkey is beautiful. When we don't love anymore, we see things as they are and our criticism blinks on every detail.

Remember your ex boyfriends or girlfriends from the past. Today you will smile or even regret why you did such choice. But on other side, maybe reactions will not be the same. Maybe person is still into you and they can't forget or chill out.

What happens when person can't forget ex love, even it is very clear that it will never come back again?

You stand on the same place. It is impossible to move on because you are frozen.

You blame ex partner for all failures in your love life, even he vanished from your life a long time ago.

You don't notice new people around you.

You try to get revenge and to ruin other life because of pain you feel inside.

Person who can't forget made damage to yourself. 

Imagine that you try to get back person who forgot you a long time ago.




This is possible development of this story.

She will laugh to you.

If you disturb to your ex partner , she will call police or someone who will make your life miserable.

She can sue you for hurting her privacy and also is possible to ask access barring.


Now you think about, is that worthy, that people feel sorry for you or make jokes with you? Just because your ego is suffering?

My general opinion about people who can't accept word no is that they never loved this fatal person. 

When you love someone and when relation broke, you will walk your way and let person to be happy, even without you. We all lose some battles in life and we can't have it all what we imagined. Why to keep someone in fear just because our ego can't stand defeat? This is obsession, not love.

Naomi had big problems with her ex boyfriend Ted. Long time after they broke up her phone was ringing in the middle of the night and she could not sleep well because she was disturbed by this calls. Ted was following her in all places where she went, but she was persistent in her decision. She ignored him and she was cold as an iceberg. Ted soon realized his nonsense so he left her alone. 

When you are stalking person who left you a long time ago, you are catching shadow. 

That shadow will be around you, but you can't touch her because it is forward you. Also, you are wasting your precious time which will never come back again.

Remember when you had beautiful rose . After few days that rose faded. Even you changed water in vase , that rose was without color and smell. Soon it was dry plant and all you could do is to put this into trash box. The same is with love from the past, you need to close this chapter because it ended a long time ago.


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