When you see life as kind of game, you are playing as kid in the sand. Nothing is serious for you, because you are having good fun. Then, something happens and you will understand life on different way, more seriously. Now party is over and it is time to settle down.
Love also consists from phases. First guy you kissed maybe was your classmate in school and you will not remember him. Then, it was story of your life. Later you lost your virginity with cool man, and after that you found guy who wants to marry you . Now all before that became ridiculous.
Mine friends used to say such things about their former boyfriends:
"I was so stupid when i did calls every day and night. His mother knew my voice, i even talked with her."
"I was hitchhiking just to see him, because he did not want to visit me."
"I cut my hair because he prefers short hair."
All that dramas were intro , because our experiences leads us to maturity. This is normal when you pass such things as teenager, and in thirties you are person who knows what she wants or she already got it.
Sometimes, life play cruel games, and some gifts which you supposed to get in certain period will skip you.
Which kind of people are immature in soul forever?
Man who did not kiss a girl, and he is already 30.
Woman who changed many men, and still she did not find right one, even she is already in certain ages.
People who live with parents after 30.
People who save their virginity even they are over 30.
Life is not pattern, and we are walkers through this path. Some women will never get married or have children, the same as same men. Nothing is guaranteed. When life skips over you, you are chosen to stay child in the heart and soul. You will see that something important miss you, and also you will try to replace this.
How to be happy when you did not get what you wished?
Travel around, you will see things which you never saw before.
Go on parties, football matches, birthdays, events.
Make new friendships.
Find some hobbies.
Strange things happen when two people, who are somehow damaged, meet together. Charlie lived with parents even he was already 30. He had bad love experiences and also he was a virgin. His days were the same, he did not know when was Monday, and when was weekend because he was watching movies nightly and working daily. Then Victoria came to his city, as tourist, with travel agency. She wanted to know London and accidentally he met her in one museum. They started to talk about history and she invited him on coffee. He was confused, but he accepted. Victoria was divorced, 40 years, still attractive and she did not have children. She was cheerful as little girl. Charlie never laughed so much, they continued contact over internet when she left in her country. They were two lost souls , victims in life who skipped them. In the moment they are talking about future, how to be together , because they recognized each other.
When life pass over you, clap your hands and don't give up to be noticed by life. Some people carry bigger burden than others. Accept this as sign that you are not ordinary. Maybe you don't have husband or children, but you were on places where others will never be and you did things which others will never do. Life gifts are not the same for everybody. Some have different package. You are just one of the people without plans.