388. Grinch in your dreams
Vision of life is often different than reality, because that vision is based on dreams which will not always come true. As young girl you maybe dreamed to be famous singer, actress or dancer, but you are secretary, waitress or nurse. In some period of life we stop dreaming, and that situation could lead us into black tunnel of depression.
What to do when your dreams did not realized?
Real end happens when you give up. Until you are in the game, your chances still exist.
Try with different solutions. Previous ways were wrong, so try with new refreshments.
Try with backup plan. You can't get what you wished , but maybe you wish something similar, what is more possible to get.
Don't make it worse, so don't do something what you will regret later, to hurt yourself or to hurt others because things are not good.
Human wishes are curse. When people can't get what they want, they are frustrated, desperate or even suicidal. It is not the end of the world if that woman doesn't love you or if you were fired from job, but that affects negative at your self confidence. When you take other's dreams, you may kill person inside. In movie "The escape from Alcatraz", prisoner Doc was painter and this made him alive in jail. When headmaster of jail took his tools and forbid him to paint, his life was over, he made suicide.
Many of you will recognize situation when you hold on something what makes your life worth of living. This could be your wife, children, mother, job, or even just kind of hobby. Maybe you like to play piano or guitar, maybe you adore football. You can't imagine life without these things, and if for some reason you lose your reason for life, you will think on worst.
Joseph lived in small city with mother and father. He suffered from depression and he could not find girlfriend, because of his psychological problems. Mother died from cancer, and one year later, father died from brain stroke. Joseph could not handle this pressure, he felt that he is alone at this world, even he had some friends. He made suicide by hanging, his friends found him in flat, without goodbye note. He lost parents and it was too hard kick for him, because his personality was too fragile and he needed expert help. His death was an alert. It could not happen like this.
Introvert, hypersensitive and depressive people are in black zone, and loss of dreams is big danger for them. They live in beautiful internal world, and when life take this away from them, they will decide about suicide.
I would love to say that all will end well, as in some fairy tale, but it is not always like that. Sometimes, you will not find prince, and you will work at awful job with stinky boss, even this is unfair. Even worse, you will see other people how they live life which you imagined. Someone stole your dreams , as Grinch. Now you live in nightmare.
You can change attitude and focus on good things, for sure that positive side is hidden somewhere, out of focus , where Grinch can't reach this. There is no guarantees that things will change, but if you give up, for sure you will never catch your fantasies.