385. Don't fall into hater's network
Feelings of anger, rage and wrath are united in one strong emotion : hate. So when you hate someone, you wish all the worst for that person. You imagine all possible ways which could hurt her. In the same moment, you spend large amounts of your own energy and waste precious time. Hate is double emotion, because even when you hurt other person, you will hurt yourself.
Did you ever feel that someone hates you without reason? Even when you wanted to be friendly with that person, she or he will still hate you.
Background for hate is based on next elements:
Envy. This person has something or someone what you wish for. That person stole your happiness, accord your opinion.
Jealousy. You think that person doesn't deserve happiness, so you mark this rival as your target.
Frustrations. You are loser, and she is winner. You blame her for own failures.
Revenge. That person hurt you or did the same to someone who is close to you.
Once when you allow that hate rule over you, you fall into own trap. Your mission is now to destroy your target, she must be wiped from the Earth. I hate so much this girl, she stole my boyfriend. I hate this guy, he got job which i wanted so much. This man beat me in tennis. I hate this jerk. When people think about hate, they forgot one important thing, that they ruin internal peace. I am not peaceful person, i am quite hot temper, but i faced with situations which ruined my peace and i learnt from this. That people were not worthy to spoil my day, weekend or even whole month of my life. That is so called self destruction.
Gloria and Clark were in relation for a 3 years. She loved him, and he was not faithful. Gloria spent much energy to cut off all his connections with other girls. She had so much awesome plans and she ruined competition very successfully. Every girl had weak spot, so Gloria explored them, as they are kind of aliens. Gloria set trap for her rivals, so one of them had jealous ex boyfriend, other girl had successful work and Gloria ruined her reputation, and the biggest success was last girl, which made sexy photos for Clark. Gloria took his cell phone and published photos at social network. She was proud on herself, wow, how she cleaned them, as rats. One day, Clark said to Gloria that he can't stand her intrigues and scenes anymore. As he said, he doesn't love her, even he tried, and also, she is creature full of hate. Gloria cried and Clark was next target, now she hated him so much, she wanted to make him suffer. Her best friend, Marie, gave her advice: "Let it go dear, he is not worthy even to clean your shoes. Besides, if you are obsessed with him, you will miss many other guys. " After some time, Gloria realized that Marie has right. She felt like big burden suddenly vanished. She was smiling, she met some interesting men, and she forgot about Clark. She was so busy with her new life, and it was not place for hate anymore.
When people hate you, they are indeed victims of own emptiness.
It affects on many life areas. Haters need much energy.
You will feel emptiness.
Also, you will feel bitterness, especially if your negative emotions don't work as you imagined.
If subject of your hate is happy, you will feel pain.
Your hate will progress, so you will hate other people connected with your target. If your friend is friend with hateful person, you will hate your friend.
One day, you will realize that you forgot to smile and that you missed something important, because you spent time in hate. Maybe is your mother's birthday, but you don't remember because today hateful woman will celebrate anniversary with your ex husband.
Hate is as train without direction. This train will go in unknown railway, until it stops. You have choice to stop black train, until it cross over you.