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390. Beautiful stranger

Every day in your street you watch the same people, you know everything about them, even name of their pets and time when they will go to walk. This daily pattern is so boring that you wish something different , unknown, even dangerous. That happened to Petra, in the moment when she was thinking that she will die from boredom.

Petra is pretty girl from small city in Croatia. She likes swimming in river, hot summer nights and barbecue with friends. One day unknown guy joined to them. This guy was cousin of her best friend Damir. His name was Pierre and he was from Marseilles in France. His eyes met with Petra during barbecue, when she burnt her fingers with hot steak. They started to talk, and their conversation finished in early morning, when Petra went home. He was talking in English language because he did not know a word from Croatian. They were together whole summer and when he was leaving, they exchange contacts. This relation continued over internet and in winter Petra went to Marseilles. After winter vacation, they decided to marry. Pierre did not want to live in Croatia, so Petra brought tough decision, to leave her country and move in France.

Nobody believed that they will succeed. There were many doubts, even ex boyfriend of Petra talked about "jerk from France". Then Petra got pregnant . Her parents wanted that they come back in Croatia, but Petra get used fast on her new hometown. She was fascinated with France and she decided to stay there. Her family accepted her decision and supported her. 

Love speaks universal language. As much relations with strangers are tough, if both partners love each other, they will find a way to stay together. 

What kind of obstacles may stand on way to love relation with foreigner?

Language. If you don't speak the same language as your partner, there will be many misunderstandings. It is very important to learn language, or at least to know language which can connect you.

Different tradition, habits, customs. Every country has different tradition, and this doesn't fit in your principles or in life you used to live, it will be hard. 

Nostalgia for your hometown. You could be sad because you left life with your parents, friends, relatives. Around you are only strangers now.

Laws and rules. Legislation is different from country to country, so you may have less rights in other country, you will wait for years to get citizenship and if you wish divorce, things can be complicated because you are only foreigner.

The other side of this story is about feelings. Do you feel you really belong in your country? Is this your home or you belong to somewhere else? Maybe you are citizen of your country, but what you feel in your heart? Maybe this handsome stranger will appreciate you more than everyone else. You may not talk the same language and you grown up in different countries, but love will connect you on magical way. You will feel as you know him for lifetime. 

When Petra wrote long letter to her best friend Helena , content was next:

"This is the best time of my life. Yes, it is hard and i have no job for now, but his family is really wonderful to me. Pierre helps me with baby, and i am learning french. I feel like i was born yesterday, but i don't mind it at all. I spent five years with my ex boyfriend and he did not talk about marriage. Pierre propose me for few months, even i did not asked anything from him. "

You can feel as stranger in own country and even in own family. Your home is where your heart belongs , and this is not always place where you live in the moment.

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