Our beloved ones are our weakness, because we will do everything to protect them . We will not believe what others say about our children, husband or parents. Even in law is written that wife doesn't have to witness against her husband and opposite. Blood connection is not water, and love is strong bond. When it comes tough, we will close eyes and refuse to believe in the fact.
There is saying, when woman cheats husband , he will find out the last. This husband is not stupid , he will simply protect his vision about wife, as pure one. Jasmine and Colin were in long lasting marriage, with two adult sons. She was working in factory, and he was always proud on her, because she did not complain even on nightshifts. She was good looking woman, good mother and wife. People around talked about her lovers, but Colin considered this as human envy. One of that lovers was even her boss, it happened during nightshifts. After her affairs, Jasmine went home to get shower and with smile on her face. Poor Colin never believed in stories, even when his own brother talked about Jasmine as slut. He accepted good part of her and that vision stayed, for a lifetime.
We chose some people as safe shelter, as something we could lean on. Why to ruin our walls and safe harbours?
This attitude has price, so when we decide to live in illusion, situation will be next:
Person will use our forgiveness to act by her own, when she wish, and how much she wish.
One day that person can leave us, no matter how good we are.
People will laugh behind our back.
This person will be bad example, so others will try also to get their credits from us. When fool was born, let's use that.
Naomi was good mother and her daughter Jean , teenager started to drink when she was 16. She hide bottles of vodka in basement, and her drinking buddies had party while Naomi was working. When Jean drunk too much, they called emergency, and this was first time that Naomi found out this bitter truth. She was shocked, but with rest of clear mind she decided to get things in own hands. She simply went with Jean in clinic, on rehab.
We are blind with healthy eyes when our beloved ones are considered as troublemakers. It is easy when it happens to someone else. Nobody is spare of problems, so until we talk about neighbor's daughter, who changes guys as sock, let's see in our own home. Who is sitting on the table during lunch with us, and who is sleeping in your bed? Maybe you share life with stranger.