You made a decision and that is your final word. Can you stand behind your attitude when temptation knocks at your door? That is the harder part. Accord experience, many circumstances will try to rock your plan. You said I will never do it again, but then something or someone stands in your way.
No matter is your decision about love or friendship, private area is always a tough task. You decided not to talk with your best friend because she hurts you. She came and cry, she will give you promise not to do it again, she offers you flowers and chocolates, just to forgive her. Then, if your heart is soft, you will give her another chance. Guess what? Probably, she will screw you again. The question is, how much you will tolerate before you can officially call yourself a fool?
If you are weak on your naughty lover, things are harder. He will take you to bed and situation is solved, if you look at things from his angle. This is not even near to a solution. He kissed you but still, he is able to cheat you with every woman, without regrets. He will look at your friends, even sister, in intention to show himself as fatal Casanova. Yes, he will hurt you again.
Your final decision has the biggest enemy, and that is so called temptation. Now you are on diet, but what happens when someone offers you an ice cream? Also, you swear that you will not answer on messages from your ex-boyfriend, but he wrote so romantic note that you must reply to him.
What is a magic formula, how to hold on your decisions and make it real?
Always check all circumstances around you. If you see anything suspicious, stay silent and wait.
Don't trust people who already screwed you. They need a double check.
Don't feel regret or sadness if you hurt someone who hurt you before. This is a paycheck.
Jump into this situation if you have to. You will get burn and next time you will not repeat this again.
Advises are not a desirable thing. I know I don't like to listen advises, especially if I did not ask for it. Also, it is easier to judge from a comfortable situation. The best adviser is the person who was in your skin before. If someone passed similar or same path, listen to this person. Word-final is always drastic. I know what you think, how is sad not to talk with someone again, not to give him chance. Or, how is hard to resist to temptation. This is rat race in the circle. You give chance to someone, he screwed, you cry and then again. How much does it need before you felt totally exhausted from that evil demons?
Sometimes, destiny will decide instead of you. For example, Adele was crazy for Thomas, and he played with her 3 years, but when he found Isabel, he never called Adele back. In fact, he avoided her everywhere. She could win that game when it was time, but she let him win. She did not use her cards and Thomas used it against her.
It is hard to resist to temptations, but it is harder to carry the burden of humiliation, after you realize that someone laughs at you, behind your back. So, when you have bullets, shot. Stick to your final decisions, no matter how much it hurts. The result is joy and space for something better.