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What happens after love is gone?

When someone said "Love Hurts", the point is not in physical wounds. We can imagine broken heart as big scar and this will bleed for a while until fresh memories get cold. How much time you need to get over the person who devastated your heart?

Mostly, happiness in love doesn't come immediately, from first experience and first partner. That are rare people, who fall in love in 16, and then they stayed together for a lifetime. Before we catch our best match, we will cry, scream and heal love scars. 

When a woman says "you hurt me" this is not the same meaning as when a man says the same. Women are more sophisticated, fragile and romantic. Our expectations are deeper and we fall in love easier than men.

Here are some examples, how women get hurt.

"We had sex and after that, he is nice with all my friends, but he pretends that he doesn't know me."
" He said in front of other people that I look fat."
" He said to his mother that I am not a serious candidate for marriage."
" He was staring in that woman whole night. He danced with her, even we came together to that party."
" He said that he doesn't remember me, but we had sex when we both were drunk."

Men are more firm, tough and they fall in love harder. But once when you won the heart of some man, he will harder forget you. 

What will hurt some men?

"She said that her former boyfriend is a better lover than me."
" She said to her best friend that I don't earn enough money."
" She talked about our sex to her friends, and all know about our night. She simply can't close her mouth."
" She was so drunk and she laughed loudly. Other men flirted with her, and she acted as a slut."
" She corrected every my word when we were on that meeting. She acted like I am a child, and she is my teacher."

Before someone broke your heart, the person will break your ego, pride, and dignity. Even if you swallow everything, with time you will be very unhappy. Love scar doesn't heal overnight and you will bleed every time when someone mentions your ex-partner.

People often say, how much time I need to get over my ex, and what I need to do?

Time is an individual thing, so it depends who much you were bonded to this person. If you had a relation on distance, if your partner is not from the same city, that distance will be your supporter. Far away from sight, far away from the heart. If he is your neighbor, things are not so easy because you will wish to kill him when he appears in front of you in the market. Nowadays is not easy to avoid someone, because internet profiles at social networks are big reminders. If he sent you a message, that is even worse. You can't run from that person, because sooner or later you need to face with him. In this case, remember that you don't want to go back and that person is now as everyone else. 

What happens after love? Before few months you slept in his arms and he kissed you. Now he pretends that you do not exist. If he can pretend that you are nothing, you are obligated to do the same. If you need to hire someone to make him jealous, that is not the good idea. Your ex-did does not know how much you are worthy, so why would other man teach him how to value you?

It is not enough to forget, you need to stop your memories. That is the hardest part, but not impossible. Someone else will enter into your life and you will trade bad memories for great future.

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