471. Copy and paste friendship





Social intelligence is ability to sympathize with others, to feel their needs and to help them if you can. Selfish person is deaf on other wishes, so when you hear someone to say "What i have to do with this, this is not my concern", you know what to expect. 

This kind of ability gives you eyes wide open, and your view into world is more ample. In this case, you will be able to communicate with people from different countries and with different attitudes. It doesn't matter is your friend gay, atheist or nigger, you love them all on equal way.
No, it doesn't mean that you must agree with others in everything, just this time boundaries are different. So, if you feel disrespect from other side, your right is to push this person away.

Recently i saw this kind of sentence in one group at internet. Guy said: "Please add me, i need friends, i have no friends. " This voice of despair sounds creepy, because person marked himself as loser. So the same guy started to like everyone's post, to confirm with everything with others say, just to get their attention. Result was bad, people found him as irritating and annoying.

For sure you can remember situation from childhood, when two girls wear the same clothes, when they kiss each other in cheek and hold their hands on the street. It looks cute on first sight, but somehow artificial. 



What happens when girls grow up?

One girl found boyfriend, other is still single. 
One girl move in another city.
One girl spread her circle of friends, so she is not free as before, sometimes she wish to go in cinema with other girls.
One girl became more popular.

What other girl feels?

She is abandoned.
She is angry.
She is jealous.

Other girl says : "That is not fair. We wear the same clothes, we listen the same music, we grew up together. Now she makes distance with me. But i gave her all, i always stand behind her, even when she was not so sweet and kind. "

That is situation with copy and paste friendship. In this case, other girl lost personality. She wears the same red skirt and white blouse, but also she talks, laughs and acts on the same way as her best friend. That is point of this story, she was clone and twin, but not equal part of this friendship.

Copy paste friendships are field of risk.

 If you have friend who copy your style, as in movie with Bridget Fonda, this situation is dangerous. It will turn on two ways : your friend is addicted to you because you create her or your friend hates you because she gets less attention than you.

Best friends are indeed people who are not always sweet together. They fight and argue, they have different taste and priorities, but their friendship is as chess board. Black and white, different personalities, but awesome in one mosaic. This relation is mature, because you don't need to wear the same skirt to prove your loyalty and devotion.
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