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Do you have a confidence in people?

Between trust and foolishness is a thin line. If you believe to everyone, you are an ideal target for manipulation and cheaters. If you look at the world with four eyes and walk on the street as the sun is behind your back, you are paranoid. What we need is a balance, how to draw boundaries between fair and unfair people.
If you are distrustful, one of side effect is loneliness. Everyone is your enemy, even person who gave you hand maybe hold poison in another hand. 

The main question is, what made you so disappointed?

Parents who did not care for you enough.
Unhappy childhood, where other kids laughing to you, and you were a street clown.
Bad relations with wrong choices of partners.

Lack of trust has own development. If you lost trust, you are under the bad influence of wrong people, or you are a pessimist by nature. One of the areas were we lose trust in the workplace. People at work are beasts, and the workplace is a jungle. 

Helen works in the office as a civil servant, for five years. She is a silent woman, but not stupid. She talks when this is necessary and her life is a secret shelter. Someone would think that she could not be a target for enemies. An opposite, her boss Carl doesn't like her. He thinks that Helen is a perfidious person. When Helen started to work, Carl did everything that Helen feels pleasant. She wrong understood his actions, as kind of a flirt. Indeed, Carl is a married man and he did not have bad intentions. Helen lost trust in the previous workplace, where she was a victim of mobbing. So Carl paid for other's mistakes. 

Do you allow yourself to lose trust in the world?

You are the paranoid person in next cases:

If you look at new people as potential enemies.
If someone invites you to drink coffee, and you are asking for hidden intentions.
If you walk on the street, and you think that every wrong blink of eye and smile is focused on you, to tease you.
If you reject an offer for a date because you are sure that man or woman will use you as the toy.

I knew a guy who had the same excuse for every woman he rejected. He said: "For sure she wants my money. " So poor women did not have a chance because they were all considered as money hunters.
A paranoid person is a very unpleasant company. Even if you don't talk you are suspicious. If you talk too much, you are annoying. And if you talk with others while she is near, for sure she thinks that you gossip her. 

In worst cases, such person can isolate herself from others and nobody can't approach her. It is easy intro to suicide. Caution is a healthy habit because this is a selection of person you can trust. Distrust is the denial of confidence. This is the situation where you shut every door and burn every bridge because once in past someone hurt you.

Once when darkness swallows you, it is hard to get back. Books and movies are your best friends, and music is only connection with the real world. This world you created looks beautiful, but still, you are only habitat there. Only you have keys to get out from this voluntary prison.

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