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How long you let someone disappoints you?

Disappointments are part of life. Remember the last time when someone turned you back or left without explanation. Remember when someone you cared about did something bad to you. People change, or we were not enough care to see their real nature. Estimation is key of a good relation, so if we don't estimate person in the correct way, disappointment just results. 

You might ask yourself, why someone hurts you if you did not do something wrong? 

There are few solutions:

People hurt each other because of jealousy. 

You have a pretty wife, expensive car, good job. Enough reasons for bad actions, for frustrated people.

People leave because of wrong expectations.

Maybe someone loves you, and you can't give love back. 

It is hard to persuade broken heart. The heart can't hear explanations, that you can't give your emotions for return.

People act on the bad way to pull attention on themselves.

Some people are as children. If you neglect them, they will break something to pull your attention.

People fight with each other because of rivalry.

Maybe you and your friend want the same things, but only one can win. If you fight for a girl or for the guy, friendship is over. 

Helen always thought that she is a good person, good friend, and a good girlfriend. She tried very hard to keep good relations with people. She and Marianne were as sisters, good friends from childhood. Marianne had more success with guys, she was sexier in that time, and Helen felt she will lose a friend. All their topics were always about Marianne, about guys, clothes, her exams, her adventures. Helen was invisible, but she did not care until Marianne did not date with Kevin. Helen was in love with Kevin, but he did not know this. It was last kick to her ego and Helen started to avoid Marianne. They broke their friendship in silence because Marianne did not care enough to ask Helen what happened. 

Don't hold on your disappointments for too long time. If you stuck between sadness and questions, you will miss other opportunities. People leave because they wish, and if someone did not offer you explanation or reason for a bad act, don't wait for him. Real love and real friendship can't vanish overnight.

Fake relations are as bubbles. They will glow and fly, but one touch with finger and all will disappear. A struggle is part of real love and real friendship. If your relationship can handle fights, if that fights can shape your relation, you are on right way. When the person yells at you, that is a sign of care. When you don't care, you will just turn around and go. When you care for someone, you will try to explain your reasons, why you don't feel good. Relations are never smooth. 

Disappointment has the deadline if you are with the right person. This is kind of test. If you are with a player, disappointment is your mirror. All that you see is the wrong reflection of your illusion, and when it vanished like it never exists.
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