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Are you person with a soft heart?

Do you like to taste victory? This sweet feeling when you know, you won in the game. That means, other side is defeated and now you can celebrate. Winners are many kind, so you are merciful or ruthless. When gladiators fought in arena, emperor Neron decided to who will stay alive. Thumbs up and he is alive. Thumbs down and he is dead.

If you are softhearted, that is not your advantage. That is your weakness. You might give coin to beggar, but he can steal your wallet. You might forgive mistakes to your friend, but he can hurt you more next time. Your boyfriend cheated you and you pass over it, but next time he might repeat this. Once, when your opponent is on the ground, don't give him hand to get up. He can pull you to the ground again.

How your victory can turn into defeat because you forgive too fast?

Leila was cheated by her boyfriend Nicholas. They were 7 years together and Nicholas wanted some refreshment. He pick up girl while she was hitchhiking and make love with her in his car. Leila found lost bracelet and Nicholas admitted this. He was crying and Leila decided to hug him and forgive. After a year, Leila's cute friend Aisha came to visit her. Nicholas waited moment when Leila will go out of house, and he tried to kiss Aisha. She told all to Leila. This time Leila did not forgive him. He acted as idiot and he blew his second chance.

If you are softhearted, consequences are next:

You will not have much success at work. 

Professional people think with mind, not with heart. 

You will gain respect harder, because your tolerance is high.

Your partner could cheat you.

You might have fake friends.

You will borrow money to others, and they will not return you back.

Hard attitude is kind of paradox. People will think that you are cruel, but they will respect you more. You might not be so popular, but your friends will be real, because they know they can't play games with you. When you are social clown, everyone likes your company, but nobody notice your tears. If you have boundaries, others will be warned when they cross limits. 

Love makes us softhearted and even the most cruel creature forget principles in the name of love. But, first mistake of our partner makes us to reconsider, shall we give everything ? Yesterday you were melting in his arms, and today he is cold toward you. Yesterday you made love with him, and today he has another business. 

Love gives us wings, but not ability to fly. This skill you must learn by yourself, and make some walls into access to your heart. 

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