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Do you follow social conventions?





We talk about free human rights at every opportunity, but society is made in the matrix. Even someone wants to fit in, standing out will be a better solution if you follow your instinct. At first sight is cool to fit between your friends or colleagues, but if you feel ridiculous or uncomfortable, this feeling will be as walking in too tight shoes. The question is: can you get out from the crowd and make own rules, or you will stay and dance on music made by others?
We live in one big matrix even many are not aware of this. When you do something out of the matrix, the rule of society is broken and now you will get punishment. Judgment, isolation, the rage of the crowd, cause you are black sheep who need to get out from this herd. 




How matrix looks like?

For sure you will recognize some neighbors, friends, and colleagues as blind followers of the matrix, in this cases:

When you are 16, kiss for the first time.

When you are 18, find first boyfriend or girlfriend. High school relations are cool.

When you are 25, you need to get married.

Give birth to a child before 30.

Give birth to another child before 35.

Go to find your first job in 25.

Die in 70 because your purpose is over. 


One my friend described this in a funny way. He is single, over 35 and he still lives with parents. It is not an ideal choice, but that is his right. Old neighbors judge him because he falls out from the matrix. As he said: "Old granny has registered. She makes notes when someone will marry, have children and find a job. If you fulfill all conditions, you are human. If not, you are trash. "

Life in the matrix is full of limits. 

People will not judge you when you fit in, but your conscience will complain. I remember the day when I get out from the matrix. I got a job and my boss advised to me to associate with people, to go in the restaurant for lunch with them, to drink coffee and listen what they are talking because they are my colleagues. So, I was curious to see that association and I went to office room where women drink coffee. This stories about their children, husbands, and work made me yawn, I could not get my word to say or comment something, because they were always in right. In that time I was not married so they only said:"Oh, you are next. What are you waiting for?" When I got married, I got next question: "Do you have children?" So that matrix was haunting me with rope. 

Then I reject to join next office party, I had an excuse that I have a lot of work and urgent case. I was eating alone in a business restaurant, without anyone who will chew loud in my presence or make phone calls between meals. So I felt free as a bird. Later, they were gossiping me but I only smiled. Next days situation was calmer, and I saw some colleagues follow mine example. One of them said: "You have right, they are annoying. I also hate to eat with someone, I love my peace. " Man who was working with me said: "Congrats, you have your attitude. "

When you get out from a matrix, guardians will try to sabotage you. They will run on a leash and try to stop your intentions because you are a bad example for others. Rebels always have a label, and it is not recommended to associate with them. This is price, but the feeling is incredible. Compare this with the bird in the cage. Poor bird will try to fly but her wings are powerless in closed space. When the cage is open, the bird will fly free and the sky is not the limit. 

Do you wish to fly or just breath in the cage, this is your choice, but also don't judge others who will fly alone. 
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