562. Potential wife
What was your dream when you were little girl? Did you dream about warm home, kids, good husband and dog? Or you had dream about many men under your feet, parties and journeys? As much this vision sounds irrelevant now, your life path will show that nothing is by coincidence.
The way of your thinking, clothing, talking is key for your destiny. If you stuck as mistress, it is not because Gypsy said a long time ago that you will never have luck in love. It is because your behavior attract such kind of men who are not able for relation, at least not with you. If you are wife, that is because you shown your serious intentions and men recognized this.
Diane is average woman, not pretty, not ugly, single mother with adult son. She used to say that she had no luck and that men are pigs. Well, if you look at her choice, she tried to make pie from craps. Her first man was immigrant from Africa who came into Europe for asylum. After Diane got pregnant, he returned in his country, because he was home sick. They were not married so this way was easier for him. Second man was married and had problems with his wife, so Diane was his comfort. Third man was her boss. Diane was secretary and she was fascinated with his old boss. It was not forever, soon that man gone from his position and their relation was over too. Now Diane is in retirement and single.
As three fake witnesses might hang you, wrong choice of men could label your life as failure. It is not just who they are , it is how they see you and which are their plans.
Do you date with player or potential husband?
In 4 steps you can recognize player.
He calls you when he is free, that is maybe once at week or even month.
He avoids word "we".
He will not introduce you to his parents or friends.
He doesn't talk about future. His time is now, in present moment.
Here is one basic rule.
Women will be more successful in searching players, and men will be more successful in searching wives.
Let's be real. Men are not so crazy to jump in marriage, especially when they are in twenties. They wish to have many adventures and they enjoy in random sex. Later, when they get tired , they will choose woman to settle down. That is woman who will not force them and run for them in white wedding gown . That is woman who is not desperate and who will understand them.
On other hand, every woman dream to get marry. Even those who will not admit it dream about husband. So, sometimes this desire is so strong that scares man. Ask man what is his nightmare, that is to get marry too young and not ready. So , man can choose between women who wish to get marry, but he will not have easy task to find woman for one night stand. Woman is surrounded by men who wish sex, but she will not easy find future husband.
Women are not aware that they pick their own path, by giving signals so men.
See profile of mistress.
" I love my freedom. I enjoy in sex. I had many guys before you. Relation is choking me. I don't like kids, they are annoying. Marriage is choking me. I don't know will i ever settle down. "
Accord this pattern, mistress will chose unavailable man ( someone from other country or city), married man or even bisexual. Someone who is in prison is also good candidate. Or playboy who sits on many chairs, or too young man. What is their connection? They are not candidate for marriage. They will not stay.
See profile of wife.
"I wish to get marry , to have husband to whom i will trust. Together is easier. "
Wife is person who make plans. She is step forward so she will not lose time with someone who can't promise future. She will date with man who will take care for her, who is not only with her for hot sex. She will reject other men because she found her match.
There is no bad luck in love. You can meet jerk, but you are not obligate to stay with him. You can burn your fingers in marriage, but you are not bonded forever. Only bad attitude will mark you forever.
If you meet a man and first what you say is " i don't trust you", you just opened your bad prediction. On this way, you wanted to be unhappy in love. It is not that your crystal ball shown you bunch of jerks, you attracted them with your beliefs.