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Why some women force marriage?





Serbian basketball player Miloš Teodosić recently got tempted offer from beautiful pin up girl Nataša Šavija. Girl saw his photos in newspaper, also she heard that he is famous, so she sent him public message : "I want to marry for you and to wash, iron and clean for you. I will give a birth to 5 children, all for you. " Many men would imagine himself as her husband, but Miloš answered : "I want girl with brain, so get marry for someone else and give him five children . "

His reaction was a bit harsh, but he sent clear message that he doesn't want pushy woman who will be with him just because of his glory. If he was carpenter, would she offer herself so openly? That is in fear of many men, that they will find girlfriend who wish their money and who will marry just to have wealth and children. 

As much women are afraid that their man is not ready for marriage and children, men are afraid that they found bachelorette.

Who is bachelorette and how to recognize her?

Bachelorette is woman who know that she wants to marry before 25 or 30 years, but she doesn't know who is her husband yet. Also, if she doesn't manage with her plan in this period, she will make her standards lower and get marry in late thirties, for man who wish to get marry with her. 



How to recognize bachelorette?

She will talk very early about her wedding gown, place for marriage and children. Maybe even after two months of relation.

She will talk about events, not so much about you.

She will make ultimatums with deadlines. 

She will talk about her friends who got married, and compare her relation with others.

She will introduce you to her parents and relatives very soon, You must get know your future family.


Women got surprised when their perfect match slips away. Also, they don't understand that is their contribution. For sure, you can't wait your husband for lifetime, but force is also not good idea. You are not product to offer herself with your values. Your partner has eyes and ears and he will make perception about you. Sometimes, you are simply not what he is looking for. 



Here are one of the most often mistakes which women do:

I am beautiful, and nobody will reject me. So i will easy find husband.

I am beautiful so i must ask only rich and handsome husband.

I must marry until i am pretty because time is my enemy.

My mother and father will help me to find future husband. 

I don't need to work because i will get marry for rich man.

I must push him a little, because men in generaly don't know what they wish in life.

I will get pregnant so he must marry me.


Probably Miloš smells the same trap when Nataša gave him offer. He felt like slave in human trafficing. Where is his freedom of choice in this case? In modern times, women will more often use their charm to get marry, before partner propose them. This is kick in manhood, because man is the one who decide about marriage. Man will decide because he loves you, not because you are pretty, pregnant or famous. It doesn't really matter if other thinks that you are perfect woman for him. What he thinks about you is more relevant. 

Man who is in life crossroad needs space. Will he get marry or not, it doesn't depends of bachelorette in his life. It depends about him. In Brazil, women will reject men few times, just to be sure will he try again. Unpredictable situations are better, when woman is the one who needs to say yes or no. So guy is waiting, nervous and sweaty, what will she say about his proposal. When man feels fear of losing, that is sign that he cares. Don't torch him too long, but don't jump on him on first hint that he wants to get marry. 

Bachelorette might fall in one more trap, trap of flirting and sex. So, man will say yes on first sight, just to get sex and when this is over, he will runaway. Who can blame him, when he felt caught ? So in this case, Nataša got honest answer and save her time. 


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