577. Fit in or stand out?
If you are one of those who know how to fit in, probably you have much friends. You have team, they stand behind your back and support you. Are you strong, powerful person? Can you say to your opponents: "Take care of me, cause my team will ruin your life. " When ex Croatian tennis player Iva Majoli divorced from ex husband, her words were : "Beware of dark, it will swallow you." Everyone who can count on gorillas, because of money, power or any other reasons, is not alone.
On opposite side, are you one of those who defend rights alone?
Can you stand against crowd, lonely and without background, just with your principles behind you?
Imagine these situations:
You are in bus and radio is loud. You are the only one who complain. Yes or no?
Neighbor beats his wife. Others will not interfere, but you are the only one who will defend her. Yes or no?
You have friend at Facebook who constantly tag others. You are the only one who will remove tag. Yes or no?
Someone stand in front of you when you wait for line in restaurant. Others will be silent, will you yell on him?
Your boss makes mistake in important document. Are you the one who will warn him?
It is easy to be brave when crowd stand behind your back. You are powerful because gorilla Steve will break teeth to those who dare to touch you. Well, what if you are alone? There is quote : " Force will break woods, but mind will rule with kingdom. " Can you win as David against Goliath?
Sheila was fragile girl. She was victim of bullying in high school. She did not allow to guys to touch her, so they use force and cut her part of hair. She complaint to headmaster. In this moment, she did not crying. Her face was calm and voice did not tremble. She collected her hair, and spread her palm in front of headmaster, with words: "They did this to me. " Bullies were punished and Sheila was winner, without bullets.
Just because you have parents, brothers, husband or friends, it doesn't mean that they will always be with you. Some situations happen suddenly, without alert. Husband is maybe at business trip. Parents are maybe old and without power. Brother is on date with his girlfriend. And you are alone, against bullies, or against rude people who wish to hurt you, with force or words. That is situation why is important to use your character, because that is image of your real power.
I had friend teenager who was so cocky because of her popularity. She had the best clothes and the most handsome boyfriends. Well, when her own father slapped her in night club, because she did not come home at time, nobody helped her. She was weak and she cried as little baby. Nobody wanted to protect her, because it was family thing.
When you stand alone, count with this:
Don't show fear .
Don't change your mind.
Raise your voice.
Don't cry and don't tremble.
Maybe you are fragile butterfly and gorillas might tear you, but your dignity is your weapon. If you don't show teeth at least once, you will never go far. Courage is mother of respect, so be enough brave to gain respect of crowd.