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Sprinkle yourself with ashes




We like to believe that our beloved people are perfect. Once you heard something bad about them, you might be shocked. What, that dear neighbor, he was in prison before 10 years? This kind woman next door cheated his husband? The point is, if you have impression that someone is pure and perfect, it is because that person has good self promotion. Some people are simply experts for own marketing, how to cover all glitches and to show themselves in the best light. Later, others might attack you if you try to expose them.


Honesty is a value, but when you wish to get some points in social life, that is not always the way. It is better to hide your black stories from the past. People will not understand your honesty. Imagine that you get great job and someone ruins your reputation , in a way to found out your secrets. Our weakness works against us and in fact, we are the worst enemies to ourselves.

Mia had good knowledge as legal expert, she was awesome lawyer, but colleagues saw her drunk at workplace few times. Enough to be reported and fired. In the same time, his colleague Sam was also drunk, but he never got caught. That is the point, don't let others to use your secrets against you, because nobody is totally pure and when truth swims out that is danger zone.



What kind of secrets you should never admit in your professional life?

That you make gossip about your boss.
That you make copy other's work.
That you had affair with your supervisor. 

How much you will be successful, it depends how good you make balance between your failures and success. For example, people will say for Sam: "Everyone doubts that he is drinking, but he is an excellent lawyer. He helped many people. " For Mia, people will say : "She is very good lawyer, but she is too emotional and no wonder that she could not hide her weakness toward alcohol. "

Private area is even more sensitive. Someone has good image about you, and how to tell that person that you are not what she expected or imagined about you? High expectations leads to high disappointments, so once when your beloved found out that you make plastic surgery or that you were promiscuous, that is cold shower.  Admit or continue with lies, that is the question?

First of all, think about consequences.

Will that hurt someone?
Will you lose your peace?
Is someone win in this case?

Children are pure and honest human beings. Until the age when they don't know how to lie, you will get pure, humorous answer. Once i was at wedding where bride was fat. Nobody dared to tell her that dress did not fit, but her young niece said to her : "Auntie, you look fat. " Everyone laughed, and bride was blushing, but she could not be angry on kid. Well, once when you are adult, people will not be so dear to you. You have no credits for excuses and apologies, you grown up.

If you have weakness, you must live with that in kind of strange community. You are drinking, gambling, smoking weed or cheating? Why should everyone know for this? Your life is not Big Brother and you have right to live in your parallel word, as long it doesn't hurt someone near you. 

Strange thing is, people love to celebrate angels which they made.  Look at Angelina Jolie, will someone today talk about her as addict on drugs? She is saint mother and big humanitarian. Her story brings message, if you cannot hide all bad what you did, at least cover this with something good. Let your good deeds be more great than your bad deeds. Maybe you stole something, but then you made donations for hungry kids in Africa. Or you adopted poor girl , which parents died. In this case, you got forgiveness, your past faded. Sprinkle yourself with ashes, and your sins will be forgotten.





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