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Are you sitting on the two chairs?




Sitting on two chairs is a phrase for infidelity. One person is between two fires, with the inability to choose. Simply, the person feels comfortable in a situation where she can take all the best for herself. Selfish, isn't it? Roots of such behavior are not always in hunger for sex or mean nature. This person is not always ruthless or egoist. Maybe she is abused as a kid and she felt lack of love, so this is her way to complete herself.
Triangles can't last forever, because sooner or later protagonists will find out what is going on. What will be consequences? A person who was sitting on two chairs will fall on the floor. 

Even this sounds out of morality, some triangles are not so dangerous.



Imagine yourself in this situations:

You are a teenager and you like two guys. Which one to pick? So you will meet secretly with both.

You are married and you have a virtual lover. He is far away from you, in another country, and you will never meet again.

You are bonded to your colleague at work. This is platonic and you are both in marriage, so this relation will never develop.


Many times, the opportunity will make a thief. I know women who were swearing on their innocence, they were more saint than angels, but their fantasies did not die. As one, my friend said: "Yes I love my husband. But I like my boss. He is charming, I feel more relaxed in his presence. Well, what I can do? This is just my imagination. Reality is at home, between a bunch of my plates and dirty laundry. "

Monogamy is connected with discipline. In a crucial moment, you need to stop. As when you are crossing the road, this red light will tell you that you must stop or car will cross over you.

How long is the distance between fantasy and infidelity? 

Where are boundaries?

I exchange messages with him but we never met.
I hugged him and I did not kiss him.
I kissed him in cheek.
We drunk coffee and went home separately.

Accord one theory, little, innocent flirts might make your relation or marriage more interesting.

A married couple is often tired from obligations, they forget spontaneous things, a bunch of obligations is on their back. Compliments from strangers might give you new energy. This is remainder of your youth. Your butterflies in belly were frozen? Now they woke up and fly with full wings. 

Can you control your mind and your heart? The most important thing is, be honest with your partner. You both have a deal, where is a red line. This feeling, when you make fool of someone who loves you, is not pleasant. Even cheater gives an impression of a bad person, that is far from the truth. 

A person who cheats can't sleep well. 

This is the path of his thoughts.

" I did not want to do this. I was horny. I will never do it again. It can't happen anymore. I am the idiot. I wish to die, seriously. I don't deserve her love. "

Swan is a faithful animal. Once when he lost the partner, he is alone till the end of his life. Not many humans can't say the same. 


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