585. Unbreak my heart
Playing with feelings is cruel game. Any normal person can't feel pleasure to left someone in tears or broken. In situation when ego is celebrating, conscience still regret, why should we hurt someone who did not deserve this?
If i ask you did you break someone's heart, you might say no. Well, if you think deeper, you will remember past events when someone's heart was broken, by your fault. You did not mean it, you did not do intentionaly, but damage is done.
If you are interesting woman, attractive, smart and sensitive, you will pull attention. Even your heart is focused on one guy, you can't prevent yourself to be someone's silent pain. You don't know for him, you did not do anything, except you exist. Still, that person can consider you as heartbreaker, because he imagined in his mind common life with you.
When is possible that you will break someone's heart?
Your photos are on internet. You are pretty. Some guy will fall in love in you.
You are successful business woman. Your colleagues might try more with you.
You are sexy, your dress is provocative and others notice that.
You are target of gossips, because you change your partners.
You are friendly with guys. You might not think bad, but they wrongly understand signals.
Let's meet Sandy. She is pretty , sexy, smart and in marriage. She is happily married and her husband is busy with his job, so she use social network to talk with people, and spread her friend circle. She captured interest of many guys. Then she draw line, she is not obligated to reply on all these messages.
Result is next:
Some guys deleted her, because she doesn't want to talk.
Some guys insulted her, that she is nasty bitch.
Some guys blocked her.
Other guys wanted to see her husband, they consider him as rival.
Sandy was upseted because her intentions were not bad. She was honest from the start, she published her wedding photos and she said that she is taken. Normal men accepted this and talked with her about policy, philosophy, even sport. They were gentlemen. Some of them even shown respect toward her husband. Other men said that she should close her page, because she is married. She had unpleasant time when guy opened profile with her photos. She did not want to vanish, because who are they to ask her what to do in her free time?
Can you avoid situation to break someone's heart?
In this case, don't talk with this kind of men:
Too young guy. He will not understand difference between dream and reality.
Loner. If man did not have girlfriend a long time or never, he might stalk you as maniac.
Too old guy. He can see you as reason of his existance.
Man who doesn't understand word no. If you say him that you are busy, and he continues to bother you, block him or avoid him.
Man who opens his privacy on first sight. If he jumps with his private details at first time you know him, he is desperate.
Everyone can be heartbreaker. You will smile to someone and it will mean world to him. You will say hello and how are you, and certain man will stalk you, because he likes you. Don't feel ashamed because someone cried for you, if you were fair from the start. If you don't like someone's attention, say this from beginning, don't make false hope.
Guy with broken heart could turn into dangerous patient. Now, his illusion is gone, and he might hate you. Why you ruined his dream, why you made him miserable? If he tries to persuade you that he loves you, don't trust him. Real love never involves force or blackmail. Real man will accept defeat and go forward. Broken heart is not reality, this is just symbol for wrong target. He wanted someone who is not available. The best description of this story should be broken dream, not broken heart.