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Did you break someone's heart?

Playing with feelings is a cruel game. Any normal person can't feel pleasure to left someone in tears or broken. In a situation when the ego is celebrating, conscience still regret, why should we hurt someone who did not deserve this? 

If I ask you did you break someone's heart, you might say no. Well, if you think deeper, you will remember past events when someone's heart was broken, by your fault. You did not mean it, you did not do intentionally, but the damage is done. 

If you are an interesting woman, attractive, smart and sensitive, you will pull attention. Even your heart is focused on one guy, you can't prevent yourself to be someone's silent pain. You don't know for him, you did not do anything, except you exist. Still, that person can consider you as a heartbreaker, because he imagined in his mind common life with you. 

When is possible that you will break someone's heart?

Your photos are on the internet. You are pretty. Some guy will fall in love with you.

You are a successful businesswoman. Your colleagues might try more with you.

You are sexy, your dress is provocative and others notice that.

You are the target of gossips because you change your partners.

You are friendly with guys. You might not think bad, but they wrongly understand signals.

Let's meet Sandy. She is pretty, sexy, smart and in marriage. She is happily married and her husband is busy with his job, so she uses the social network to talk with people, and spread her friend circle. She captured the interest of many guys. Then she draws the line, she is not obligated to reply to all these messages. 

The result is next:

Some guys deleted her because she doesn't want to talk.
Some guys insulted her, that she is a nasty bitch.
Some guys blocked her.
Other guys wanted to see her husband, they consider him as a rival.

Sandy was upset because her intentions were not bad. She was honest from the start, she published her wedding photos and she said that she is taken. Normal men accepted this and talked with her about policy, philosophy, even sport. They were gentlemen. Some of them even shown respect toward her husband. Other men said that she should close her page because she is married. She had unpleasant time when the guy opened profile with her photos. She did not want to vanish, because who are they to ask her what to do in her free time?

Can you avoid situation to break someone's heart?

In this case, don't talk with this kind of men:

Too young guy. He will not understand the difference between dream and reality.

Loner. If a man did not have a girlfriend a long time or never, he might stalk you as a maniac.

Too old guy. He can see you as the reason for his existence. 

The man who doesn't understand the word no. If you say to him that you are busy, and he continues to bother you, block him or avoid him.

The man who opens his privacy at first sight. If he jumps with his private details at first time you know him, he is desperate.

Everyone can be a heartbreaker. You will smile to someone and it will mean the world to him. You will say hello and how are you, and certain man will stalk you because he likes you. Don't feel ashamed because someone cried for you if you were fair from the start. If you don't like someone's attention, say this from the beginning, don't make false hope. 

The guy with the broken heart could turn into the dangerous patient. Now, his illusion is gone, and he might hate you. Why you ruined his dream, why you made him miserable? If he tries to persuade you that he loves you, don't trust him. Real love never involves force or blackmail. The real man will accept defeat and go forward. 
The broken heart is not a reality, this is just symbol for the wrong target. He wanted someone who is not available. The best description of this story should be broken dream, not the broken heart. 

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