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5 reasons why women should not propose men

Not everyone is thrilled by the idea of marriage. Men especially want to prolong this time, until they can. One woman since death till us apart, that sounds terrified for many men. Especially when proposal did not come from him, man will think that he lives in a nightmare.

Long relations are a danger zone. After 5, 10 or even 15 years, a woman will ask where is she standing. Or, where this relation goes? In kind of despair, a woman will get an idea to propose his man, because he did not do this. I would say, don't do this, ladies.

Here are 5 reasons why you should not propose your man.

He will feel as half a man.

You do his tasks? You took things in your hands? Well, be sure he will not be fascinated if you buy a ring and ask him: "Yes or no?"

You will lose part of your dignity.

Every woman should know when to step back. This is in that case. Instead of force your man, back off.

He might say yes, but later this will be the main reason for your conflict.

"This was your idea, not mine, remember?"

His friends, mother and his ex-girlfriend could laugh to you.

This kind of things always swims out. Who proposed whom? If that was you, it will be subject to jokes. 

You will lose this magic moment to make him in uncertainty.

So you will not see him what he really could do if he is afraid of losing you.

Women have a vision about a guy with a ring who will crawl to propose them. It will not be always like this. The cool proposal, without much noise, is a good way for every man who doesn't want to sound as the cuckold. Ask her if she ready to spend life with you, kiss her and wait for a reply. 

I understand women who were many years alone or in frustrated relations until their friends got married. Always maid of honor, never bride. Well, you can make an influence on this, but you need to know the way.

If you decided to make him rush with the proposal, do it on next way.

Make it as a joke. 
Tell him, you look gorgeous in a white dress and his mother adores you anyway. If he is silent, don't force this conversation. He will understand the point.

Don't go directly. Make it as an indirect way to the proposal.
Tell him that you got many compliments from a colleague, but that you said him about your serious relation, which leads to commitment.

Make a sentence: "once when I will be married for a guy", and wait for his reaction.

Men are not blind. They understand hints and symbolic way. They pretend that they are dumb, but be sure your man knows what he should do. If he doesn't do this, he has a reason, because he is not sure.

What is the worst thing you can do? 
This is a proposal on the internet. You can make yourself ashamed because this is something that others see. It will not be erased so easily. Especially, if your man is someone you did not meet for real.

Leslie did this with Douglas. They met online, on chat. They had a virtual relation for a few months, and she felt this is it. Leslie was single so many years, she had some failed relations before, and she was a lady in certain ages, over 30. So, what can happen worse? She proposed him on his page. She thought, it will be cool and she will make an impression as the independent woman. Oops. Douglas said short yes, but after this, he did not talk with her. He became silent as someone who got punishment. He was the little boy in the corner, terrified from his older teacher. Of course, he was younger than Leslie.

Remember, what is so cool for us women, is not the same for men. You might think you look as Cat woman, Lara Croft or some other action heroine who took things in her hands. In his eyes, you look as the kidnapper. Someone who stole his power to decide. You deserve to go away from him.

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