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What is indeed romantic?

Stereotypes develop from childhood. Differences between genders grow through traditional values, modify with time, but skeletons stay unchanged, no matter about fashion and progress. Let me remind you if you gave birth to a boy, what will you buy him as a toy? Little car, ball or plastic gun? If you gave birth to a girl, what will you buy to her? Doll, pink dress or flowers? As we made labels for seats, we also labeled women and men, to see why is something suitable, and why other things are not appropriate.

Ask a random man what he would buy to a woman. He will say roses if I like her. Red roses for love, white roses for appreciation, yellow roses for honor and friendship, and orange roses as a sign of passion. Well, did you ask her, do you like flowers, anyway?

Some women will melt on first sight when they get flowers. "Oh, how nice. He is a real gentleman. " Others will say: "What I will do with this roses when they fade? I have no nerves to change the water every day, besides, I have an allergy. " Despite all, some men will treat women on the equal way, and they will think that roses are the universal recipe to capture woman's heart.

Do you want drag woman to bed? Give her roses.
Do you want to make an apology because you hurt her? Give her roses.
You want to borrow money from her? Give her roses.
You want to say goodbye to her? Give her roses.

Poor flowers suffer from so many purposes, and the most fun part is when the flower is artificial or not fresh. Faded roses at the desk are dead nature, an artificial rose petals. Well, that is a flower, who made difference, even it doesn't smell nice?

Now, I bet every one of you met granny with roses. If you visit coffee bars or nightclubs, you have seen this creature. The old woman who wish to sell a bunch of roses, because that is tradition, that is appropriate. Which kind of woman doesn't want roses, she must be masculine or at least not well mannered. 

When granny with roses approach you and your partner, she is ready to manipulate. Now, see next scenario in your minds.

Your partner: "Damn, I should buy her rose. She will think that I am an idiot without feelings. "

You: "If I don't accept, he will think that I am not a lady. "

So, granny with roses waits to get her money. For sure, she plays on the feeling of guilt. She spread poisoned arrows in both ways, to make couple guilty by default. Man buy a rose, and woman smile and said: "Oh, thank you, dear. " Granny puts money in the pocket. 

I am not afraid to say that granny is a promoter of bullshit. I saw many times old lady who was disturbing and annoying by her attempts to sell roses. Maybe you wish to whisper on your partner's ear or kiss him, and she came between you to offer you rose, without respect to your privacy. Also, buying flowers should be the spontaneous act. On this way, your partner is trapped. Maybe he spent last money on drinks, and now he must buy the rose? 

What granny with roses offer is far away from love and respect. She is selling the product. She is kind of beggar, just not without money. Also, she is the challenger, to check are you and partner on the same line. If you both agree, accept this flower. Well, if you not, send her to hell. 

Women are caught in the network of rivalry. I got roses, you did not get. I am pretty, you are ugly. This funny circle is made of vanity, not from love. Roses which granny offered are faded, a long time ago. It just looks like the sign of attention, this is indeed moral blackmail.
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