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Why some people try to force other's empathy or love? Why they are desperate for likability, and what is this, indeed?

Remember your childhood, when you first time felt that your peers dislike you. Did you fit in? Maybe naughty girl destroyed your favorite doll or a nasty guy hit you with the ball into the face, so you came at home with tears in your eyes. As a teenager, maybe girls laughed to your pimples or you have been considered a nerd. As workmate, maybe you tasted bitter insults because you wear wrong clothes, you are not kind or you radiate in a negative way.

So, if you are not missing or mister of popularity, should you buy a shotgun and shot into your head? Maybe you try to get what indeed attract people and why someone is having a huge number of friends, and you are the bohemian soul.




I see three kinds of likability:

Artificial likability. 

If you are famous, not everyone is your friend. They will follow you cause you are popular. How many sincere smiles and words are on your side? Many of this things are fake because you are rich and successful. Today they admire you, next day they will laugh to you.

Forced likability.

If you watched war movies directed by Clint Eastwood, you will remember soldiers who sow fear. Tough general is in the center of likability, but this likability is based on fear. In the case of defeat, someone will shot him.

Spontaneous likability.

This is the best form because people love you for what you are. You are not dependable of their opinions, you don't ask nothing from them, but they simply love you, because your independence inspires them.


Recently I was talking with a psychologist on his blog page and he asked people what is likability, how they see this value. He said that such person has the deeper insight of life than in mainstream media. 

This brings me to next conclusion: how much internet force people to be likable for each other? When you see desperate teens seeking for likes who can't move eyes from their cell phones, in expecting of notifications on social media, are they desperate? Or, this is just sheep race, because her classmate got 30 likes for the profile photo, and she is not so popular?


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