Every new person in our virtual life is field of risk. Are you opened to new acquaintances, and you are the one who easy open doors to person in virtual world? It could be great act of empathy, but this kind of decisions are not always clever. If person is from another country and depends to another system of values, risk is even bigger. You never know with whom you are dealing with.
Love is one of areas where we are the weakest. One sweet smile, hot look, sweet words and this kind of stranger is already in our house. How you protect yourself from sudden troubles?
Melinda was big fan of social networks and she spent hours and hours by typing with strangers behind computers. One of them was Greek man Nikos. She felt in love in his voice, actions and charm. Also he introduced himself as musician and gave her password for his official site. They soon got involved even Melinda had boyfriend. Melinda got bored in safe relation and she wanted some excitements. Nikos was good partner for that, they had cool sex chat, he made her laugh and Melinda felt as she is 10 years younger than she really was. In the moment of passion, she sent to him her half naked photo .
Soon Melinda realized that Nikos has certain issues. He started to text her every hour, when she did not replied he accuse her that she is cheating him. Melinda was invited on sister’s wedding and she came there very tense, because her mobile phone was vibrating all the time. Nikos sent her insulting message : “Where are you whole day, you ungrateful bitch. What are you doing now?” Melinda felt fear and blocked his page. She could not stand this pressure.
Few days later, Melinda got message at her social page. Message was with link on other page. When she opened, she saw her photo in transparent shirt and naked boobs, and behind this was her nickname “I want cock. ” Melinda was green in face from fear. She reported site but nobody cared. She wrote letter to Nikos and begged him to leave her alone. She apologized to him for hurt his feelings, even she was not guilty. Page was there more than year and finally someone deleted this. Melinda has lived with shame, of course, she could always say that photo is not hers, but she felt embarrassed inside. After that, Melinda continued to talk with strangers, but she never shared her half naked photos again. She has learnt on harder way.
How we could know with whom we are dealing with?
He could be handsome stranger, full of loving words, hungry for attention but the same love he gave to you could turn into revenge if you turn him back. That is how narcissists do, they will capture your heart with attention, hug you in every moment, and when they feel that you are theirs, they will turn other page. Now it is time to obey to them. He is in charge, a boss. How you dare to make conflict with boss? Now he will show you, he will hit you where you are the weakest. Did you opened your heart to him so soon? Did you opened your box of trust to him also?
Beware if you did. You gave them opened gun against you.You got his attention, but you lost his respect, because he is feeding with your feelings now.
That is why we should be careful when we talk with people on internet, when we share things which are delicate.
You never know to whom you gave key of your dirty secrets.