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A fishy story : when your friends get involve with your lover

Would you date with your best friend’s ex lover? Would you date with guy who is  her secret crush ? And the last question, would you date with her present partner, until she finds out?
Many women will be in shock and say no, how could i hurt my friend like this? On other hand, another group of woman will say “live once, and use every chance, btw it is not just my fault, for game takes two”.
Nothing cause more troubles in woman’s friendship zone than appearance of attractive man. Man who captures your eyes , who is charming and unfortunately, a womanizer. This kind a man knows very well his influence on woman’s heart and he will not care are you related with woman who is his target.
Classic story begins when two friends are going out in club and they have eyes on the same man. This man could play double game, because two is better than one, just to cuddle his ego. I remember when i was teenager, the same guy kissed my three friends, every Saturday was one girl, and i was last on the line. Later we were smiling on that, and one of us said : “Fuck such boyfriend, he is not worthy even to spit on him.” Not every story will finish like this, because envy, jealousy and old problems will open wounds and holes in your friendship. Sometimes, woman will date with your man just to show you the way, cause you were too perfect in her eyes, you got all what she wanted a long time ago, or just this mate poacher likes challenges, so why not to sleep with your man.
Who is guilty in this situation? Indeed, this game takes two.
Real , valuable man will never do such things:
Flirt with your sister.
Flirt with your best friend.
Flirt with your boss at work.
Flirt with your neighbor.
You can’t give him chip and try to control every his step. Well, if you deal with man who likes everything what has pussy and two legs, then, i am afraid, you are dating with animal, not with human. How you will watch over him, every time when you introduce him to your friends, he will drool and ask you who is this sexy lady? You will stand and wish to strangle him or to kill your all female friends. No, that is not the way.
Second part of this problem is your friend, how much amount of loyalty and devotion she has.
I would doubt that she respects me in this case:
She date with my ex boyfriend without telling me.
She date with guy she knew i want him, without notify me.
She shares secrets with my partner and i have no idea about this.
She gossips me in front of my partner, ex lover or secret crush.
Before you spread poison, dear women, check is your female friend really responsible because your man wants her. Cupid arrows are clumsy, it will not hit target with reason, it comes from hormones. This is charm of forbidden love, because when you can’t love someone, you wish to love someone, this is secret ingredient of every spark in this chemistry.
So what to do when you lose game, when you must admit that your best friend run out together with your beloved guy?
Be proud and let it go. Also, you are not obligated to keep contact with any of them. If all reminds you on defeat, you can still win and walk away in silence. One day she can ask you forgiveness or he could try something new with you. Then, you just make a smile and say that you don’t believe in feelings out of deadline.
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