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Are you a bossy woman or you just have an attitude?

How many times I heard a word about me: “You are bossy. ” This sentence came from people who don’t make difference between someone who give orders and someone who has an attitude. Control freaks are people who want to have a nose in everything and watch every step to check their partners. The bossy woman is the one who holds every corner of her house and doesn’t let husband give another, different opinion.
When someone is superficial and like to jump to the conclusion, it doesn’t make difference. Corny men love to make excuses that some woman is nasty if she fights for her place under the sun.
As a woman with attitude, I don’t let certain things.

The man who yells at me and insults me is not welcome.
The man who swears and tries to humiliate me is also not welcome.
The man who looks at me as a sex object is under my standards.
The man who mocks me and tries to make fool of me is also out of my standards.
I love to make golden middle between a cuckold and macho man, so my type is a gentleman with attitude. This is kind of man who let compromises but who doesn’t want that women use his good intention to make cuckold from him. He has his limits and his principles.
I noticed one interesting thing when I talked with some men with traditional values. They will complain about feminism but when a woman offers to drive them, to pay a bill or to invite them in her flat to spend the night, they will have nothing against. Suddenly, independent woman is not an obstacle anymore, because she has car, flat and money and they don’t need to take the effort to care for her. She can do all alone. She can even come to visit him in another country because she is a strong woman without fear and able for adventures.
The real bossy woman is not someone who could be my role model, because rough dominant wife often finishes with kind of cuckold and later ask for lovers.

The bossy woman is the one who is always right.
She makes decisions in her marriage without asking her husband.
She decides about children without asking approval of her husband.
She underestimates her coworkers, colleagues and subordinated people at work.
She is the one whose word is the last word.
When someone tells you that you are bossy, it makes you wonder how much this person is educated. That person sees only black and white side of this story. This kind of man is maybe raised in a family where mother was silent, and father abused her. Maybe his mother wanted to educate herself, and father forbid her because her duty was to care for children. When man starts to compare you with his mother who was totally different, you need to prepare him for changes. Some men will even accept your attitude, but then they will mark you as a mistress.  Such guy will say:”Well, your attitude is indeed sexy, but I don’t like that woman take the first step and fight with me. It could be great for sex, but not for marriage. “
Is that surprise when the traditional man, who find traditional wife suddenly gets bored and find wild mistress? He wants to have all, but paddle has two ends and that is why he starts to sit on two chairs.
Real, mature man will accept a woman who is able to be herself at first, not to be shaped accord his priorities. He will not judge her by her past, he will not accept to be her toy, but also he will listen to her wishes and try to make the deal. Mutual respect will erase differences, as mutual loyalty will unite two different attitudes.
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