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How to avoid a toxic atmosphere at the workplace?

While I was walking at lunch pause, I got a compliment. Secretary from my workplace said to me that I have awesome stockings. Few days before my other colleague said to me that my skirt is cool. Today I meet alive with a colleague who is my e-mail business contact, we cooperate in some project but we never introduce each other. She says it was my pleasure.
Small things as professional kindness and courtesy are necessary to make the working atmosphere better. We are humans, not robots, and it is not the same when you work in heat, toxic atmosphere or when you can communicate at a normal level.
Sometimes, the workplace is a jungle. I was working with a Smoker, a Pervert, and a Gossip woman. I wrote this nicknames because this reveals all about their personality. It was a hard time for me.
Smoker is a woman. She would kill for a cigarette and we had a lot of conflict about her smoking in the office. I was choking in her smoke, and I was constantly repeating to stop with this. She bought electronic cigarette but only a few days, later was all as before. The only solution was that we sit in separate rooms.
Pervert is a man. His stories about the size of my bra and my “fucking ” body were so unpleasant to me. He was sometimes drunk and it makes the story even worse.

A gossip woman loved to poke nose everywhere, but she complains when someone talked about her.

Now, what we can do to make the working atmosphere less toxic?
Share your meal with a colleague. 
Make some compliments about hair, clothes or anything else.
Ask advice about your work. This cuddles ego.
Walk on lunch break with your colleague to share some stories.
Borrow things like lipstick and perfume. If you go to business meeting sometimes you have no makeup and these small things can help you.
Borrow tampon during the period. Yes, it happened to me at work, I got period and my colleague gave me a tampon.
Tell colleague if you don’t feel well. Someone has pill or chocolate, or he will bring you coffee.
Don’t gossip. Stories are spreading fast at the workplace. If gossip is your hobby, be aware that you will be subject too.
Try to be fair when you share a room with a colleague. If you yell, laugh loud or talk on phone loud and your colleague has an important task, you are selfish. 
Deal with a colleague about air condition, heat or open or closed windows. This small thing can cause big confrontations. Someone is sweating, someone is getting cold so habits and needs are different.
Don’t dig at your colleague’s computer. Respect privacy.
If your colleague is not married, or other sexual orientation than yours, don’t be an asshole. Be tolerant.
Workplace might be jungle and tigers are ready to tear you. You can show tolerance, but also teeth. If you did all to make peace, and nothing’s work, make a report to bosses and ethics departments.
Some cases are pure mobbing and it is the another story.

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