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Why women and men get into conflicts?

“What I did wrong to her?” That is the main question which every man ask when he can’t understand his woman. Some men think it is enough to say few compliments, buy her chocolate and flowers and woman should be happy. They did not go far from their childhood, have they learned that girls wear pink and play with dolls, and boys wear blue and play with cars. Boys are here for fighting, girls are here for cooking. Women are not so simple as men think. It is true that sometimes things are very complicated, and women will send wrong signals, but in that case, man needs to study complete woman, to understand her point. 3 mistakes which men do the most are next: They praise her outside look, but they are not interested in her soul. (“You have very good boobs. What, you are talented for something? I did not know.” They say sweet words to her, but their actions show the opposite. (“You are beautiful. ) Then, they ignore her calls and messages. They put all women in the same basket. (“All women are bea…

Do you hate yourself for being weak?

I was raised as a strong person.  I was exposed to conflicts, struggling, periods without the support and without money. I remember myself in old jacket during hard winter, while my peers had brands. I remember myself with a broken heart while my peers had boyfriends. This phases made me defiant, cause I could not stand tears. It doesn’t mean I did not cry, but more I felt scream inside of me. Then, I was thinking on this way: “Oh, why you need to be so desperate and weak? Look at yourself. You look as losers, and everyone could run away from the loser. Do you want to compete for the loser of the year? You will beat the competition, for sure.” The same attitude I had toward people who were always begging and crying. Even if I could get something in this way, it would be disgusting for me. To beg someone to love me? To seek attention? That is not my way. Life is made of cuts. Sometimes, I felt that some people are toxic, they were as cancer. If you want to get rid of cancer, if you want to…

What makes your blood runs faster?

Did you ever wonder what’s keep relation alive? Is that harmony, laughter, habit? Or this is something else, what makes your blood run faster? Now here is the story how conflicts might make relation interesting, painful but also challenging. Louisa was married but she had problems in her marriage. Her husband was too passive, too sensitive and he liked to judge her accord her past, while she was promiscuous. Every time when they had conflict, he would mention her past, as kind of rock which disturbs on his feelings. “You had relation with this hooligan guy and i hardly digest it. ” Louisa felt as she has plague, and whatever she did in her life was not good enough to get admiration of her husband. She met man on internet sites. Marco was different character than her husband. He was man who could control his feelings, strong, and promiscuous in his past, as she was before. She attracted him and he wanted to see her in reality. Louisa did not want to met with him, because it would be t…

If it is not on Internet, it never happened

If it is not on Internet, this event never happened. If you travel somewhere, celebrate the anniversary with husband, celebrate a birthday, put your photos that the whole world sees this. Otherwise, your life does not exist. I remember when I opened my sister's diary and found something fishy, and later she got angry at me. Nowadays, when you open someone's Facebook and find something fishy, the person will get angry cause you did not press like or make comment.
I noticed that people forgot the difference between secret and private. Oh, you are married? I did not know that. It has been two years since i got married and some people at my workplace still questioning how i changed my surname. No, i did not share photos in my official e-mail, i did not bring cakes from the wedding, i don't talk about mother in law when i wait for lunch at a business restaurant. Simply, i think, this is my business. It is not their business, and at least it is not Internet business. 
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Are you ready to be honest ?

Honesty is value which everyone wants, but not everyone is able to handle. This is kind of mirror with two sides, and once when mirror is looking at you view is different. I was often judged because i speak on honest way, i don’t know how to pretend. Even if i tried too, my facial expressions would show opposite. So recently my colleague complaint that i never ask how is she, i never knock at her office door. She said: “I could die and you would not know. ” I replied: “Well i am sure someone would notify me about this. “She said to me: “I like your way, you always know what to say. “ She accepted my honesty even it was not sugarcoated. This is not always the case, so try to be honest with some people, they will say you are bad mannered, rude, cruel and so on. Just, what kind of offers we get from people who constantly praise us? We never know where we are standing with them We can hear the same compliments for our rivals. We can notice that compliments are based on pattern “good, sweet, …