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Why you can't find common interests with some people?

Did you ever wonder why it's so hard to find a common language with some persons? Here is a nice quote: "We are not in the same movie." It happens at first sight or during years when people change their city, work, or they simply live in different circumstances. It is the same feeling as you are driving a car, and another person has no clue about it. Two friends, Jacob and Sam talked about girls. Jacob is a virgin and Sam is a playboy. Jacob thinks that Sam is using women, and Sam thinks that Jacob is very naive. Recently Jacob met beautiful girl Pamela. They are dating about few weeks and Jacob asked advice from his experienced friend. - Did you have sex with her? - It is too early, I even did not kiss her yet. - Damn man, what are you doing, she will dump you. She will find you so boring indeed. - I don't like hot and easy women, I love to talk with girl, hold her hand, listen to slow music and to look her into eyes.

Did you give fake excuses and broken promises?

So much talk, fewer deeds, and actions - this is the golden rule in every relation. People who make many promises cannot realize all, and instead of realization, you will get excuses.  Arthur was never a man of too many words. He said to his wife Lena "I love you too" and the rest was unnecessary for him. Lena wanted a more romantic man, with candles and flowers, but Arthur was a working man, and his love was firm and stable, but not like in fairy tales. They separated because Lena wanted to live like in romance novels, with deep passion in the heart, and to be wild and spontaneous. So her next husband Victor was really a master of imagination. But unfortunately, he was without a job and all financial burden was on Lena's wallet. He promised to find a job soon, but that soon was long term, it last for years. And when Lena got angry, he said: - S orry, but I had no luck in searching job. All this is not good for me. I am not a manual worke

When people show true colors

When will people show true colors, when masks fall down? Everything is great until you have harmony in relations, no matter is this love or friendship. Until you support and confirm other opinions, until you stay away from discussions, you are peaceful. In this way you feed another ego, you are not a competition and there is no reason for envy or jealousy.  Once when you have a conflict with someone, things are changed. Suddenly you see a real face from your friend or lover. Then you can see how indeed that person respects you and what he/she really thinks. Denials and rejections are not easy. It can be very painful, unless you are a professional person who offers some products to customers, and they deny and refuse to buy. That is normal that you will say no to Jehova's witness who rings on your door, to people who are hired to sell brochures because they can be indeed boring. But they will not cry if you deny them, because it is their reality. Someone

Do you throw your frustrations to others?

You know the feeling when someone is getting on your nerves, but for some reason, you can't respond properly. You depend on this person and you will swallow your rage. When rage is placed deep inside you, it will find a way out. This rage is traveling until the right target. So, the poor victim is the third person, someone who is in the wrong place at the wrong time. The mother comes home after an exhausting day at work. Her boss gave her a hard time, but little daughter asks for attention, she wants her favorite candy or she lost her Barbie doll,  so the mother should help her to find where it is. - Damn, leave me alone. I can't open my eyes, I am so tired. Can't you give me a little peace? The little girl will be offended without special reason, just because her mother did not face it with problem eyes to eyes with their causer. A new man comes to a business company, he progressed as a boss. His employers are in fear becaus

Do you wish to stay young forever?

In the story of Oscar Wilde handsome man never get old, but his portrait of youth getting older and older. He had eternal youth and his soul was black; he was full of vices and evil. He became so unhappy that he committed suicide, and suddenly his portrait became young again. We are dreaming of eternal youth. That is why is Twilight saga so popular, there are handsome vampires who are young forever and live an eternal life. This is impossible in reality, but that kind of trend is everywhere. We can stay young and extend our youth for some years, with few tricks. As long as you are young, your chances to survive in this society are bigger. Photoshop on Instagram gave opportunity even to plain people to stay young, so if you wish to play with your smartphone you are welcome into this illusion. Recently I read about a woman from Croatia who lost her job in public service, she is 42 and she sent many appeals for a new job, but employers denied her because of her

Are we slaves of the own addictions?

Look around and you will see a cloud of smoke and a person with a cigarette, man who gamble, people with glasses filled with vodka, wine or beer, and a bunch of other people busy with computers. All these are addictions. Life is hard and we need someone or something to lean on, to make our own mislead that all will be alright, in the moments when we don't know where we are going. Someone will say that gambling, smoking, drinking or playing video games are things for weak people without character. Someone will describe such people as losers without friends and real life. But can we judge someone without looking ourselves inside? Of course, there are just some steps from casual smoking until addiction crises, from current gambling until dangerous game with roulette where your money can burn and you will be in financial trouble, and also here is familiar story about kid who died thirsty and hungry because he spent 2 days in front of computer by playing video games.

Did you face it with treason?

Face it with treason is a hard kick in the ass. That moment when you realize that trustful person is traitor, someone in your life with whom you share trust, confidence and give part of yourself is indeed mole, the discovery of treason is a great shock. That Caesar and Brut story can't leave us calm.  What is treason indeed and who are traitors?  Indeed, a traitor is a selfish person. When someone is a snitch, spy or rat, that person is selfish. It is the opposite of loyalty because when you are loyal you are thinking about your friend, you don't want to hurt him or her, you are careful and you have balance. But indeed treason is a kind of weakness, and a traitor is a person with a price. Now you must only find out how much that person costs. The worst kind of treason is in the area of friendship and love.  Life will give us situations when is time to choose.   It is hard to stand between two fires. For example, the b