Rebelious rules by Kristina Gallo

You are angry with your boss, friend, relatives? You want to kick some asses or to slap someone? This feeling is familiar to everyone. Even the calmest person has a moment of "yellow minutes" when the feeling of rage takes over. Whatever reason for anger was, we want revenge on the culprit, causer of this anger. Here is an imagined picture, black eye or tears on his eyes, that guy who deserves to be punished. I wish to make miserable this girl. How dare she, to make me angry like that? The feeling of anger has many sources. This comes out from disrespect or denials. It is not easy when someone underestimates our deeds and feelings, and when someone plays with us. When we can't fight back in a proper way, we are powerless. Yes how great it would be to slap my boss but I will lose a job in this case. I would spit on my doctor because I got an appointment with him and I waited 2 hours in the clinic, but I can't do it.  Savage people will have simple

Quid pro quo, that is an old Latin proverb. It means, gives and take. If you ask for a favor, I will do it, but next time I will need feedback. If you don't want to help me I will consider you as selfish. Ask next time something from me and you will not get it. Human relations should be based on reciprocity, as we have two hands on one body. I give you love and I expect your love for return. I am loyal to you, I will not screw you, but also I am not a fool. If you think that I am not worthy of your respect and loyalty, for sure I will know this and you will lose my affection. A selfish person will hardly understand the meaning of reciprocity. So, I am used that others please to my wishes. It comes out from childhood. Mother made a cake for me but I don't want to wash dishes. She will wash instead of me. My friend did my homework because I did not know-how. She asked me to borrow her skirt, but I can't do this, I don't lend my clothes. A selfish person

There is something you need to do and suddenly you know-how. You have no skills and knowledge about certain things, but something whispers in your ear that you are on good way. That is the voice of intuition. Psychologist Gary Klein said that 90% of critical decisions we bring on the basis of intuition. When we are on the crossroad, intuition is an additional feeling we can lean on. How many times we heard "my feeling inside never lie" or "I felt something is wrong" or "I had this signal that everything will be ok. " Previous signs can warn us before some bad events. You are going on a journey but somehow you feel unpleasant pain in the stomach. You can't explain the source of it and how it happens, but it follows you all the time. Dorothy was traveling in Spain. On beach Costa Brava she lost her money and documents, indeed someone stole her purse. She was swimming and when she came back her things just disappeared. She had big problems

We are born clumsy. You try to walk and you will fall. Try to swim and you will swallow water. Your heart will skip a beat from fear that you can get drown. Nobody learned everything about life immediately, at the first moment. Some people are learning fast, others are behind them. What is in common,  people are not robots and not perfect. This means we will do plenty of mistakes in every field. I remember when I wanted to learn to type on a keyboard with 10 fingers. This skill of typing I needed to make my job easier. I was in a mess and very slow. Later it was very useful so it saved my time.  Mistakes are part of your life. Who will learn, work, and participate in anything that can't avoid mistakes? What is bad is judgment and contempt.  " Oh, you are retarded. You don't know this? How you don't know simple and basic things?" Every skill starts with a mistake. You will eat a bitter meal when you are cooking for the f

This morning is misty. Dino will cook more coffee, read newspapers and then ask postman is their new deliveries for him. He will open a blue envelope with one more notification. "I am sorry, you did not justify our terms. With respect." Dino is one of 370.000 in Croatia without a job. That number is bigger and bigger every day and there is small hope in better days.  The days of unemployed people are always the same. A cup of coffee in the morning, walking around, watching TV or reading magazines and waiting for a postman. Knocking on the door of the Labor Exchange. There are clerks who will say: "Nothing new this month. I will call you when I will have news about the possible job." When you don't have a job you can expect many side effects. Some are global, and others are personal. What kind of side effects of unemployment appears in society? Mendicancy. If you don't have money, it is very possible you will become a beg

I don't have luck. Me and my bad luck. We will say this often when nothing good happens in our life. Then, happiness will leave the track. You hear someone is knocking on the door? If you don't open, the person will leave and maybe return next time. Or never. The same is with opportunities. They are here, and if you don't use this moment, all that is left is regret. Ivan had a good chance to work in Switzerland. He was an engineer and he got an offer to work on a project, for a good salary. He was thinking because this opportunity has a price. He should move from Croatia, together with this family, and to live in Luzern. He should leave his friends, parents who were old and sick and simply to start for a new life.  After many doubts, he gave up. How he will leave his city, friends from childhood and how his parents will live without his visits? He had children and they used on school, how would they fit in Luzern? He stayed at his job, for average salary. Af

Happiness is inside of us. Ask yourself a question what makes you happy and your donor is in front of the mirror. If you feel good even your favorite song will make you happy. The opposite, if you drown in your personal flood, full of negative thoughts, new Mercedes will not bring you happiness. It is wrong thinking that everything will be solved if you find love. Bunch of people is in relations, but still, they are not complete happily. A partner can be a big source of happiness, but if you ask something different than he gives to you, all is in vain. Happiness is a system. Try to remember what made you happy all these years, what was the reason that you felt happy yesterday and what makes you smile before one hour. You can be happy even if others are miserable because this is in human nature. Think about how this thing can make you happy. Your terrible boss is sick? Your ex-girlfriend got 20 kilograms on weight and she is not attractive anymore?