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383. Sexual harassment at workplace

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Your workplace should be safe zone, covered with respect and dignity. It doesn't matter are you cleaner, waiter, lawyer or manager, basic human values should be untouchable. In the case when your honor is damaged, and when your respect is under question mark, you are victim of mobbing. One of the worst form of mobbing is sexual harassment. When your boss or colleagues try to humiliate you as sexual object, your worth is in danger and it is time to press red alarm button. In Croatia, 50% women are abused at work. Every fifth woman will report this , and 30% will be silent. Last year ombudsman had 420 accusations which content was sexual harassment at work. 
What you can do in this case? 
1. report sexual harassment in your firm, so you will be in procedure of intermediation 2. if it doesn't work, you can go to court, with accusation, and if your abuser is your boss, you can  go to court immediately 3. also, you can report abuse to some association, to protect your rights and get leg…

382. Bully - killer with smile

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When Paula had 13th birthday, she went at school with concern. Some guys in her class did not like her, and teacher had no understanding for her problems. She was victim of bullying and all what she could do is to wait 2 years until she finish elementary school. Then she will not see that flock anymore. Her doubts were true, so when guys found out about birthday, they start to provoke her. When she replied in the same ugly way, they start to beat her with fists and she was crying. Guys were enough wise not to leave big wounds, only few scratches. Nobody in class wanted to involve, they stayed away. It was her worst birthday, she went home humiliated. Her mother was in school another day, and teacher said that is normal situation between children in this period. She asked her mother also why Paula's hands are shaking, that she should feel safe between her friends in classroom and that she is too shy.
As adult woman, Paula doesn't trust to men. She thinks in two directions: men w…

381. Transparent happiness

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Streets are full of couples who are kissing and cuddling in front of others. Go in tram or bus and there are also love birds who expose their feelings to everyone. Smile reveals happiness. Or not? What you see is only show for publicity, and if you could scratch under surface, you would find some not so nice details of their love story.
When Marco and Olivia were dating, they used to go in local pub, in their best edition. Olivia was in red dress and high heels, and Marco in leather jacket and dark sunny glasses. It was impossible not to notice them, especially because Marco would open door, take chair for his girlfriend and with charming smile he would pass her to sit first. Then he would ask for a waiter to bring them expensive drink, and usually he paid with big tips. Everyone was envious, especially girls, because he was very handsome, and she was glamorous and noble.  One day two best friends, Beth and Sally were in the middle of gossip. That favorite couple came and Beth start to…

380. Fair play - game out of updates

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Clean mind is half way to successful results. When you need to bring an important decision, your brain should be in chill out position, and your nerves should be calm. Unfortunately, mostly is not like that, so we have bunch of decisions which are made in state of anger, rage, wrath or even hate. Emotions are beautiful part of every human being, but just in a case when we control them or when we use them on right way. When you let your emotions to go wild, results will be unexpected and not as you wanted.

Feelings are as furious dogs. If you let them to rule over you, they will bite you. 


So let's see here what happens when emotions go wild.
Love. When you fall in love in wrong person, you give him power to do with you what he wants. He can manipulate with you because you have no strenght to say no.
Sadness. If you are in deep grief, you will not see people and events around you. Life will pass and you will stay frozen.
Anger. You can beat someone in state of anger and later you will r…

379. Chameleons

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If you are one of those women who think that your man will change, you are wrong. Even if it is, you are not the one who will change him. He will be changed by own decision or circumstances in life, or he will stay the same, but with another skin. 
When man has ability as chameleon, he is step forward. He can be ready for all surprises and he will be able to rule with all situations. 
Amanda was rich daughter and her parents were masters in small city. She was cocky, glamorous and somehow cruel, so many men were afraid to approach her. Hugh was poor guy without parents, he was earning for life by fixing cars and motorbikes, and he lived in rented flat. They met in gym and Amanda captured his eyes at first moment, when she was exercising at Treadmill, by guidance on her coach. Hugh involved in their conversation and give her few advices, how to keep form. Amanda was interested for this rude guy, because he did not care for nice manners and he was not impressed by her at all. At least, he…

378. Heart with updates

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One of prejudice about virtual relations is that only ugly and desperate people get involved over computer monitor. If you ask some people who is dating online, they will see teenage boy who is 100 kilograms weight and live in the basement, so his mother brings him pizza until he is surfing on his new PC. Or, maybe they will see old woman with cats and thick glasses who watch soap operas and meanwhile her computer is opened 24 hours. 
You would surprise by fact that everyone of us can fall in love in virtual space, and what is common to us who fall in virtual love trap, is lack of something from real life. In the moment when you find yourself staring into some profiles , you are already there, as sober man who is going to pub and start to drink big bottle of  beer. 


What are reasons to spend much time in virtual chat rooms?

Asking for a friend. Your real friends were assholes or you are so busy with work that you can't find time for them, so it is easy to find friend in virtual space…

377. Perfect jerk

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If you ask some women did they met Mr. Perfect, for sure there will be stories to tell. Who is Mr. Perfect and what he represents? 
Do you remember guy who always have the most expensive clothes, fast car and all women are on knees, some of them are screaming when he appears because he is irresistible? Also, he is son of his father, rich entrepreneur who has factory, firm or some private business and he has everything to be proud of? 
The problem with such guys is because many of them think world is under their feet, and they just need to grab this. Thomas is son of familiar local gynecologist and when some girl would get pregnant with him, he sent her to father, on abortion. He is not ready to have family, yet. Thomas really get bored because everything is too easy for him, on the palm. Sexy women, lot of money, many opportunities for job, and he is dying for challenge. 
Another story comes out from Andrew. His father has apartments on the sea, few coffee bars and Andrew doesn't ne…