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681. Treat lady like a whore (and opposite)

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This old proverb found place in minds of some men who like to control every woman. Cheap opposite psychology is their way to seduce woman who is not obey to them on a way they wished. Imagine dominant, conservative man who raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soo…

680. Jealousy is (not) proof of love

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One of myths about jealousy is that jealous person prove love by making jealous scenes to partner. Some women are even proud with jealous men, because it shows their values, accord their opinion. Cathy, old woman who works in drugstore always talk about her husband as jealous one, who doesn’t like that she talks with her customers. As Cathy is old woman without few teeth and grey hair , it raises her ego.
What is good in jealousy when you look at this from logic perspective? Jealous person check e-mails, calls, messages. Jealous person attack your friends if they even talk with you. Jealous person follow every your step. Jealous person ask password of your social network. Jealous person make story from every small detail. If you have trust and confidence at your partner, you will put jealousy on last place. You will turn on healthy mind before you attack partner and accuse him for infidelity. There are some other ways for showing love, not with jealousy. Hug your partner, kiss him, share j…

679. Do you press wrong buttons ?

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Did you ever asked yourself why some people don’t accept you even you did your best effort? Did you asked why you give more than you get and why you stayed with short sleeves in some situations? This questions bothers me because i am person for “all or nothing. ” I give myself in complete, i have direct approach, my intentions are pure and i don’t know how to lie even i should know, to protect myself. After that i see people with hidden intentions and double faces, how they take my part of cake and i wonder why. I lost some friends cause i did not know how to fake my mood, how to pretend or to enter in some asses. In life, i met many men who wanted to obey me. I have sharp tongue, hard speech and i don’t get in my mind that i should obey to anyone. Some women have that talent, how to shut up when is time. I admit, when i get into discussion, is hard to get out from this, i love to say all what is on my mind. I am certainly not a type for “hi, how are you, have a nice day. “ What happ…

678. Pending time - he loves me or not?

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Every relation is made of few phases. First, you burn from desire , but after that you feel saturation, and it is time to take a pause. Heart can’t make 100 percent fire all the time , this is like a petrol, sometimes you need to refill it with new flame. Why we need turbulence in relations? As passionate person, i will easier deal with conflict than with ignorance . Conflict is open field, you say this, he say that, you disagree but after anger pass , conversation is possible again. With ignorance, you are never sure. If person ignores you and you don’t know the reason, you will pass through experience of pending time. Why he ignores me? When he will stop ignore me? When he will reply on my message and why he don't not answer on my call? You are for sure familiar with this questions. When we are sure that person loves us, we will start to behave as we are on safe ground. Uncertainty is not an obstacle, he loves us, he will be there for us, he will do everything for us. Just, why …

677. Fake solidarity - why i will not support some women?

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He doesn’t respect me. I wish to kill him.  When woman doesn’t succeed in her intention to get man, she will first talk about respect. As respect is not blind alley, it is not enough that you ask respect, you must give something to be respected. Recently i got unpleasant message in my inbox. Unknown woman warned me on my dear virtual friend. She said nasty things about him.  My first reaction was rage. I hate when unknown people, especially women, write to me. I hate filtered messages, because i know they have no good intentions. In many cases these are perverts or weirdos, or just jealous people who have nothing to do. So, that woman is from Russia, married or divorced, mother of one daughter. She pretend as angel of solidarity, to warn me on man. Next things i found out about her (from my other sources) is that she offers money for sex with strangers. She likes kind of sex tourism. Wow. So, when i talked with my friend, he told me that she called him on Skype and shown to him naked …

676. Why is important what people think of you ?

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I don’t care what people think of me. That is usual statement when someone wish to push rebellion at first plan. This is typical for teenage ages, when first signs of resistance start and when mother became boring bitch, and father annoying bastard. If you want to be respected in your peer’s circle, first you will stand opposite toward your parents, even they are the nicest people at world. This is your gesture to show you don’t care, as your first effort in the process of growing and maturity. This statement is not correct totally. Of course, i care what people think of me, but i am not bonded with their advices or opinions. I care what will my parents say, my sister, my husband, my friends. I care what will my colleague think in my business circle. The right approach is not to show teeth to whole society. It is not important what you say if you say on right way. This skill i was learning by years. When my boss first time said that i was quiet person, i was rude just to show her an …

675. Unforgiven

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Forgiveness is not act of empathy. That is kind of self help. If you love someone, and person harms you, and you want to continue to live with person you love, but you can’t forgive old sins, it will ruin you inside. Person who can’t forgive add poison to own life. If you can’t forget bitter memories, they became your followers. A  long time ago i could not forgive to man who hurt me. He hurt me physically , but my lips healed and all what left’s was humiliation. That was the hardest to forget, the way i felt humiliated. Later, when time passed, i started to look at this on different way. I was thinking like this : “My memories on him feed his ego. My bitterness is my obstacle. I can go forward and find another man if i will think that all are the same. I must forgive him because of myself, not because of him.” There is kind of selfishness in forgiveness, in a way, if we forgive someone, it means person is not relevant to bother us more. Why to continue endless fights when we can finish t…