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Treat a lady like a whore (and the opposite way)

This old proverb found place in minds of some men who like to control every woman. Cheap opposite psychology is their way to seduce woman who is not obey to them on a way they wished. Imagine dominant, conservative man who raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soo…

Jealousy is (not) a proof of love

One of the myths about jealousy is that jealous person prove love by making jealous scenes to partner. Some women are even proud of jealous men, because it shows their values, accord their opinion. Cathy, an old woman who works in drugstore always talk about her husband as jealous one, who doesn’t like that she talks with her customers. As Cathy is an old woman without few teeth and grey hair, it raises her ego.
What is good in jealousy when you look at this from logic perspective? Jealous person checks e-mails, calls, messages. A jealous person attacks your friends if they even talk with you. A jealous person follows every your step. A jealous person asks password of your social network. A jealous person makes a story from every small detail. If you have trust and confidence at your partner, you will put jealousy in the last place. You will turn on healthy mind before you attack partner and accuse him of infidelity. There are some other ways of showing love, not with jealousy. Hug your pa…

Do you press a wrong buttons ?

Did you ever asked yourself why some people don’t accept you even you did your best effort? Did you asked why you give more than you get and why you stayed with short sleeves in some situations? This questions bothers me because i am person for “all or nothing. ” I give myself in complete, i have direct approach, my intentions are pure and i don’t know how to lie even i should know, to protect myself. After that i see people with hidden intentions and double faces, how they take my part of cake and i wonder why. I lost some friends cause i did not know how to fake my mood, how to pretend or to enter in some asses. In life, i met many men who wanted to obey me. I have sharp tongue, hard speech and i don’t get in my mind that i should obey to anyone. Some women have that talent, how to shut up when is time. I admit, when i get into discussion, is hard to get out from this, i love to say all what is on my mind. I am certainly not a type for “hi, how are you, have a nice day. “ What happ…

The pending time - he loves me or not?

Every relation is made of few phases. First, you burn from desire , but after that you feel saturation, and it is time to take a pause. Heart can’t make 100 percent fire all the time , this is like a petrol, sometimes you need to refill it with new flame. Why we need turbulence in relations? As passionate person, i will easier deal with conflict than with ignorance . Conflict is open field, you say this, he say that, you disagree but after anger pass , conversation is possible again. With ignorance, you are never sure. If person ignores you and you don’t know the reason, you will pass through experience of pending time. Why he ignores me? When he will stop ignore me? When he will reply on my message and why he don't not answer on my call? You are for sure familiar with this questions. When we are sure that person loves us, we will start to behave as we are on safe ground. Uncertainty is not an obstacle, he loves us, he will be there for us, he will do everything for us. Just, why …

Why is important what people think of you ?

I don’t care what people think of me. That is usual statement when someone wish to push rebellion at first plan. This is typical for teenage ages, when first signs of resistance start and when mother became boring bitch, and father annoying bastard. If you want to be respected in your peer’s circle, first you will stand opposite toward your parents, even they are the nicest people at world. This is your gesture to show you don’t care, as your first effort in the process of growing and maturity. This statement is not correct totally. Of course, i care what people think of me, but i am not bonded with their advices or opinions. I care what will my parents say, my sister, my husband, my friends. I care what will my colleague think in my business circle. The right approach is not to show teeth to whole society. It is not important what you say if you say on right way. This skill i was learning by years. When my boss first time said that i was quiet person, i was rude just to show her an …

Do you forgive too fast?

Forgiveness is not the act of empathy. That is kind of a self-help. If you love someone, and person harms you, and you want to continue to live with the person you love, but you can’t forgive old sins, it will ruin you inside. A person who can’t forgive add poison to own life. If you can’t forget bitter memories, they became your followers. A  long time ago I could not forgive a man who hurt me. He hurt me physically, but my lips healed and all that left’s was humiliation. That was the hardest to forget, the way I felt humiliated. Later, when time passed, I started to look at this in a different way. I was thinking like this: “My memories of him feed his ego. My bitterness is my obstacle. I can go forward and find another man if I will think that all are the same. I must forgive him because of myself, not because of him.” There is kind of selfishness in forgiveness, in a way, if we forgive someone, it means the person is not relevant to bother us more. Why continue endless fights when we …

Why couples should (not) hold hands?

Walking on the street with your partner and you don’t hold his hand. Some people will consider you as a couple at the moment when they see you are holding hands. If he let your hands free, he is not interested. If you do this, you are not interested enough. That would be a superficial conclusion about your privacy and intimacy. When I see couple hold hands together I will not assume everything about them. They could make an impression about passionate love, but in private could be very opposite. Holding hands is a gesture, kind of formality but not necessary sign that someone loves you or cherish you so much. I don’t hold hands with my husband on the street. If we stuck in a crowd he will grab my hand not to lose me from sight. Meanwhile, our hands are free. Sometimes we made jokes about couples who are going slowly, hand by hand or if they walk on the street hugged as Siam’s twins. Isn’t that clumsy?
What this gesture should mean? He is mine. He will never leave me. Let all know that he is…