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608. Temporary distance

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Quarrels are part of every relation. Until you are fighting and arguing, your relation is alive. Both sides want compromise, want to progress, to run for better situation. Even you are swearing, still you care about your partner because you want to prove him something. Quarrels are process of learning. On this point i don't think about physicall conflict with fist, on abusing or yelling that everyone in the street could hear your scream. I think about healthy, constructive relation where two parties debate and discuss about important problems in their relation.
Suddenly, one of them suggest silence. Temporary distance, tampon zone where nobody can cross and time is the main factor. 


So, it could involve next solutions:
I will sleep in another room.
Ok, you might leave common bed and sleep in separated room. You will not runaway, just silence is something what you need.
I will live in my flat or with my parents, for a while.
Well, define this deadline. For a while can't be too long t…

704. How to insult woman without saying a word?

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Man X is standing in front of his woman Y, while she is crying . She covered her face with palms and ask for tissue. He asked her : “Why are you crying, i did not do anything to you. ” She said: “That is problem, you did not do anything!” Is that scene familiar to you? When men complain about moody woman’s nature, they will often say : “I don’t understand women, seems i did something wrong but i don’t know what is this. “ Do you have a feeling that your woman is sad after some time? Do you have feeling that she is asking for a fight, even you did not insult her by your words? It is possible to hurt your woman, by not saying any word to her. Man’s logic is concrete, 2 plus 2 are 4.  Men don’t talk behind lines, men are not enigmatic. If man likes you, you will know it, because he will not insult you and represent this as compliment. Problem is, some men are without tact or they think their behavior is normal because they are dominant gender. Well, woman’s logic is more abstract. We wi…

703. Guys without shirt

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I was always impressed with men who try to gain attention in clubs by their way of clothing or dancing. That was not impression in good meaning, it was more something what gave smirk on my face.  Guy who try to show break dance, which was popular during eighties. Guy who wear shirt with titles ” I am not gynecologist but i can check every vagina. ” Guy who wear trousers with so many holes that you can see his pants through this. What impressed me the most were guys who love to go in night clubs without shirts, to show their torso in hope that they will get lucky. This summer i was with my husband in night club with dress code, where is not allowed to enter without shirt despite of summer temperatures. They like to keep their rating, so many security guards around watched visitors to make their rules safe. In the middle of the party i saw guards around guy who undressed himself . He shown his torso with muscles (not bad view) and jump on the wall, that everyone can see them. Guards surro…

702. How i understand love?

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I never liked sentence : He is the air that i breath. We talk on one mouth. He is my eyes and my ears. Even it sounds wonderful to have such connected soulmate, i love to read behind lines and hidden notes are not so romantic. If he is the air you breath, it means you can’t breath independent. You can’t walk without leash and you can’t see more than he wants to show you. Healthy relation is connection between two strong, independent minds. I love my partner’s differences. I love his freedom space, i love his silence even he doesn’t want to let me into his world. I found this as adrenalin, as challenge and i wish to dare. I offer something for return, i offer my hot temper and my wish for arguing. Even we sound as two lunatic, one numb and other mad hater, we will never get bored. I will try to smash his wall, and he will try to watering my fire. Sometimes it looks like it is third world war between us. We hate each other, we try to destroy all nice between us. Or we just run from boredom…

701. Do you ignore your partner to show who is the boss?

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I used to say a long time ago that ignorance is deadly weapon against your rivals , and sword in the heart of your beloved ones. If you want to hurt person, ignore her. If you want to get revenge, use ignorance. Now imagine situation when you are in relation and you have certain expectations from your partner. You wish to share daily problems with him. You wish to smile to stupid jokes and to get opinions about something you did or said. Your partner should have skills of listening, because person who can’t listen is deaf with purpose, and such partner is ignorant one. How ignorance works out in relations? You send him long text, he reply with disclaimer or short sentence. You talk about your day, he just say ok and yes. You call him and your speech is long, and he is just numb on other side or say something as “we will see. “ You realize that he did not listen you carefully, because he asked question which is already answered. You talk with your partner, and he stares in other people at t…

700. Be careful with whom you are hanging out

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A long time ago my mother told me : “Be careful with whom you are hanging out. ” She knew that my friend, who was 15 years old then, already have a boyfriend, who is 8 years older than she is. She saw them during summer holidays at river beach, how they cuddle each other without shame, in publicity. She said that she is not good company for me, because she is obviously experienced, and filthy. Few years ago i realized my mother has spoken truth. That friendship broke, because my friend X was indeed embarrassing person, without inhibitions and indeed selfish. After all, her boyfriend wanted to touch me once, when i was very young, and i was shocked with his behavior. That man was pervert, and she did not see that. They split later, as my mother knew what will happen. My parents never made differences between reach and poor, smart and limited, ugly or pretty people. Just, they always suggested me to care on my reputation. If you are associated with such people, they said, others will n…

699. Which are the most annoying things in cinemas?

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I am big fan of movies. Even nowadays is popular to download movie from internet and watch it at home, cinema will be always my first choice. What happens in big screen, with special sound is incomparable with movie at home. Every summer in my city, in Croatia is kind of event, summer movie. People watch popular films under stars, near river and in old castle with improvised screen. Take popcorn, drink beer and enjoy. Sounds great, isn’t it? What can be more enjoyable than fresh air, sky in evening full of stars, full moon and partner next to you? Even if you hide beer in purse, as me , to complete your impression. That movie , Danish “Message in the bottle” was independent production and very exciting. As i love thrillers , indeed it was my favorite. So, i was totally dedicated, stare in screen and suddenly felt kick in my butt. Woman behind me used my chair to put her feet, as she is watching movie in her own room. I turned on and look at in her face, in hope she will understand my gru…

698. Don't be his option after he left you

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Two people will split after problematic relation, sooner or later. Breakup suppose to be an end, but is that really true? You will see how much someone cared about you accord his behavior after breakup. Three situations are possible : If he is silent, if he doesn’t talk about you around, if he just greet you in the street, that was respectable relation. You could not agree with him, but you will not jump on each other like two wild beasts. Breakups are not always civilized so you could be victim of harassment. He is calling you, stalking you, brag bad things about you, your private moments are now at internet, your friends know all details about your relation. Shortly, you have bad luck. Third situation is the worst, because that is caught in the middle. He doesn’t want reunion with you, but he wants you as hidden lover. What this really means? He will call you when he wish. Meanwhile, be silent. He will not date with you in public. You are his secret. He might has new girlfriend, but you sh…