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608. Temporary distance

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Quarrels are part of every relation. Until you are fighting and arguing, your relation is alive. Both sides want compromise, want to progress, to run for better situation. Even you are swearing, still you care about your partner because you want to prove him something. Quarrels are process of learning. On this point i don't think about physicall conflict with fist, on abusing or yelling that everyone in the street could hear your scream. I think about healthy, constructive relation where two parties debate and discuss about important problems in their relation.
Suddenly, one of them suggest silence. Temporary distance, tampon zone where nobody can cross and time is the main factor. 


So, it could involve next solutions:
I will sleep in another room.
Ok, you might leave common bed and sleep in separated room. You will not runaway, just silence is something what you need.
I will live in my flat or with my parents, for a while.
Well, define this deadline. For a while can't be too long t…

693. 5 myths about friendship with ex partner

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Broken glass is not available for drink. Broken plate is not available for food. What is with your broken relation? The moment when you broke up , your relation finished. Stay tuned, because maybe your partner doesn’t think so. After breakup women will cry, throw anger and maybe make revenge. It will happen immediately, cause broken woman’s heart is fragile and our mind could be crazy. Men are different, they will be quiet , enjoy in their new freedom or try to focus at work and friends. Suddenly, 3 weeks passed, you are brand new woman, and he called you. Now his time of suffering started, so he wants to be in your life again. Here is a trap. 5 myths about friendship with ex boyfriend might fool you, because his intentions are not clean. What kind of traps women fall the most? He used sweet words as bait. He wants you in his bed, but not again in his life. He wants to use you because he has some problems. Financial, maybe he wants money from you. Or he lost support of your mutual frien…

692. Boundaries between love and pride

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Can you draw a line between your feelings and pride? When is your proud act indeed manifestation of ego, and when is this vanity or stubbornness? When you did right thing, by standing behind your attitude? Think about your relation. You love your partner, but how you act in the case of conflict? Are you the one who always say “i am sorry” ? Or, you wait for him to apologize ? When conflict ruin your day, first what you think is how to establish harmony again. Will you swallow shits, for the sake of peace? Or, you will continue to hit with your sword? My opinion is that for love takes both sides. If we are together in peace and harmony, we will be together in arguments, too. If your partner is master of sweet words, but not even servant in conflicts, if he only says “all is your fault”, you can’t progress. I am proud person. It is very hard to humiliate myself, to say i am sorry when is obviously that i am not guilty. In the case of love, if i see that my partner is angry or sad, i am…

691. Conflict with man you love is the hardest exam

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Some people will remind you on harsh way why is necessary to love yourself first. Why is important to establish your values and not let anyone to cross your lines? Heart is fragile target and infatuation is blind road. Sometimes, we fall for those who are not on our level , or who wants to tame us into their world, to play accord their rules. The hardest opponent is the person you fall in love. I felt this on my own skin. If you have luck, you will survive misunderstanding with your partner and he will accept your values as part of you. If you don’t, you will get out from this impossible situation. When you fall in love, passion and self-respect could be on opposite sides. You met this guy, he attract you so much, he is amazing in bed, but soon you realize that he is not guy for long term. He doesn’t respect you. Once when man start to provoke you, to put you in the same box with other women who are really under your level, to ignore you and to show his muscles, you will see what is on …

690. Hunter stories

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Do you know about kind of guys who always gossip women after they slept with them? For sure , if you are woman you judged them and thought that they are monkeys or social trash. 
Imagine man's circle with few guys who are joking and laughing, and certain woman is subject of their topics.
"She was screaming as pig. " "She had hanged boobs. " "She did not wash her teeth. " "She was psycho, she called me hundred times after we broke. "
Hunter stories are familiar to men species. When someone asked Harry when he got laid last time, he said : "It was prostitute, i met her at club in Budapest. " After him, Billy said : "She was married and her husband was often at business trips. He was broker, so we got laid while he was not at home. I forgot my watch there so i had troubles later. "
How to recognize hunter story?
Guy can't prove that his lover girl even existed.
Guy repeat the same story, but with different details.
If someone ask …

689. Exclusivity - right key for serious relation

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When you will know that relation is getting serious? That moment is here when your partner want to make commitment. This kind of obligation doesn’t have to be engagement or marriage, it is simply exclusivity. He said he wants to date only with you, he is interested only for you and other women have no chance to get close with him. Problem with immature guys is in their wrong perception. When your partner is immature, he thinks that is enough to say sweet words and make excuses or promises , so things will work out. That will pass with insecure women, but when woman is made of strong principles, such vision will fail. Let’s assume that you are dating with playboy. He is in contact with many women. They write messages to him on his social page. They are calling him. When you are in club , restaurant or anywhere else with him, you will always meet his “friends. ” Title “friends” is secret code for lovers, former girlfriends or undefined adventures. Now, you ask him to clean his mess, bu…

688. Do you think you can change man's nature?

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I wish he stops drinking. I wish he stops staring at another women. I wish he stops smoking. I wish he is different. Since childhood woman has vision about her man. He should be handsome, kind, rich, smart ? He should be wild and brave, her hero? Reality faces us with different men, and many of them will not fit into our standards. What if you wished hero who will stand at your side, and he is a chicken? What if you dreamed about faithful guy, and he is so flirty that you can’t handle this? We women wish to have magic stick to correct failures in some men, to fit them accord our wishes , but it is not real. Even if you manage to change guy for a while, will you like him then? Maybe this change won’t fit him, as some clothes won’t fit to you, or he will stop to be your challenge? What kind of guys are candidates for woman’s frustrations? Playboys. Drinkers. Immature men with Peter Pan syndrome. Mama’s boys. Skimpy guys. Women wish to believe in some myths how certain man can change. Women lo…

687. How to avoid toxic atmosphere at work?

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While i was walking at lunch pause, i got compliment. Secretary from my workplace said to me that i have awesome stockings. Few days before my other colleague said to me that my skirt is cool. Today i meet alive with colleague who is my e-mail business contact, we cooperate in some project but we never introduce each other. She says, it was my pleasure. Small things as professional kindness and courtesy are necessary to make working atmosphere better. We are humans, not robots, and it is not the same when you work in heat , toxic atmosphere or when you can communicate at normal level. Sometimes, workplace is a jungle. I was working with Smoker, Pervert and Numb woman. I wrote this nicknames because this reveals all about their personality. It was hard time to me. Smoker is a woman. She would kill for cigarette and we had lot of conflict about her smoking in office. I was choking in her smoke, and i was constantly repeating to stop with this. She bought electronic cigarette but only f…