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Do you ignore your partner to show who is the boss?

I used to say a long time ago that ignorance is deadly weapon against your rivals , and sword in the heart of your beloved ones. If you want to hurt person, ignore her. If you want to get revenge, use ignorance. Now imagine situation when you are in relation and you have certain expectations from your partner. You wish to share daily problems with him. You wish to smile to stupid jokes and to get opinions about something you did or said. Your partner should have skills of listening, because person who can’t listen is deaf with purpose, and such partner is ignorant one. How ignorance works out in relations? You send him long text, he reply with disclaimer or short sentence. You talk about your day, he just say ok and yes. You call him and your speech is long, and he is just numb on other side or say something as “we will see. “ You realize that he did not listen you carefully, because he asked question which is already answered. You talk with your partner, and he stares in other people at t…
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How to fight back when someone hurt you?

People will hurt you no matter how much good person you are. They will complain at your mistakes which you even did not know it exists. They will neglect your good side as it doesn't matter because they wish to see your fall. This is a reality and I accepted this a long time ago. Not all people are the same so sometimes you will get surprised with good hearts and good intentions, especially if a person doesn't ask anything for a return. When you meet a shining personality, don't give up on them.
I believed in a vengeance before, I even had an imagined blacklist of people who hurt me. I was happy when someone from that list got what he deserved. She passed her karma, he paid his bills. I was thrilled and then I realized, I am thinking about that people, I gave them the attention, even they hurt me. Why give them such award? Do they think about me, unless in a negative sense? Maybe they smile if they heard something bad or they simply ignore my existence?
Sometimes you can fix…

Tell him she is not the right one

Tell someone that his choice is a wrong one, he will be angry at you, especially if you are not close to that person. What is forbidden is indeed interesting because it is a part of the chemistry in a relationship. How many times your parents said you that you should not date with this guy or girl, because they are not enough good for you? How many time you listened to them? I guess you did opposite, according to your preferences and wishes, not accord their orders. A forbidden love has a special charm. That is why people involve into the affairs, to taste a forbidden zone. If you ask someone why he abandoned a safe marriage, he wanted to taste something out of his boundaries. Later he might regret, but the voice of unknown might prevail, and how to resist this? If you want to stop someone to date with the undesirable person, don’t say that person is not good enough. Say what you think and back off, later you will see the result. When Marianne started to date Dave, his mother said th…

Can you deal with a rejection as a mature woman?

He doesn’t respect me. I wish to kill him.  When the insecure woman doesn’t succeed in her intention to get the desired man, she will first talk about a respect. As respect is not a blind alley, it is not enough that you ask for a respect, you must give something to be respected. Every one of us met a man who doesn’t respond to our wishes for different reasons. You are not his type, he is already taken, he doesn’t want a relationship, he wants someone else. Just because your heart beats when a particular man appears, it doesn’t mean he feels the same. If you are a mature woman, you will walk away on the first sign of the rejection. I remember when I approached a man at a prom night, cause I liked him a long time ago. He gently rejected me, and I was drinking just to forget this. Many years later he wanted to talk with me, but I was not available more. I rarely meet him but we exchange greetings on the street because he did not do anything bad to me. I raised his ego, he hurt my pride …

How much safe are your secrets in your friend's circle?

How much safe are your secrets in your friend's circle? Everyone has a secret. Even small one, as something that you stole the chocolate in a child or that your best friend was indeed your secret crush. If something is secret, it means only you know for this, it is in a private sphere and you decide with whom you will share this.  The next level is a confidence, pick a friend who will be your secret's guard. Give him a key to your treasure's box.
A confidence is a very fragile area. How could you know who is enough confidence to trust him? I will tell you my secret from my teenage days, the last time I burnt when I thought that my secret is safe. I fell in love with a guy who was in a relationship and indeed a problematic one. I had a conflict with his girlfriend and she was violent so she kicked me in the nose. I was bleeding and later I got a bruise under the eye. This story became irrelevant after some time because I am the type who will not turn back in the past. Karma di…

Do you expect too much from people?

The expectation is a root of disappointment. How many times you expect something from someone, and it did not realize? You met a great guy, and you gave him all benefits. After some time, you realize he is not into you. He doesn't care about you. You will blame a bad luck, but the truth is different. Did you invest in a dry ground? Are you watering a bad seed? Many people mistake by opening all cards at the first sight. It affects your results because no matter did you find a good friend, a good job opportunity or a possible lover, it will fail if you expect too much. Before you gave someone wings, act in a rational way.
Are you a kind of person who will grab a chance without an analysis? If you owe this characteristic, maybe you leave a wrong impression and people might fool you: You were hurt in the past by some people and you act like a drowning man who took a straw. You are full of praises for someone you don't know very well. You are full of insults after your relationship or f…

7 myths about blogging

Many people are interested to make a blog which will be popular and famous. Once, a girl said to me: "I wish to open a blog site, I have a sense of writing, how does it work? It looks easy." I am a blogger about 5 years and English is not my native language, so you can imagine how hard work was this for me. I was struggling not only with grammar mistakes, I dealt with mockery, critics, and spammers. Well, I did not give up. I self-published 5 books and I met many interesting people. I am a hard nut and I don't give up easily, so I accepted blogging challenge. Meanwhile, I noticed mistakes which every beginner do. A big ego, hard desire for popularity and a strong wish to change lives are indeed obstacles in this way.


7 myths about blogging:
Other bloggers are my rivals and I don't want to cooperate with anyone. Wrong step number one. You will not gain success without the audience, and your audience is other bloggers. Don't underestimate anyone.
I must approve all comm…

He is the loyal one?

When you meet a guy, what is the first thing you notice? His good look, his tolerance or his material status? A good-looking man will attract you at the first sight, but how long you will keep him if you realize that he doesn’t hold your side? Loyalty is one of the basic elements of every relationship. If you date a man, you need to know is he a loyal one. What loyalty means to you? It is not enough that he is not cheating you. A loyal man will never do this : Talk bad behind your back. Gossip you after a break-up. Spread rumors about your intimacy with him. Talk bad to your friends about you. Talk bad to your enemies about you. Escape in the case that you have problems with some people and you are in the middle of the conflict. As I always have a habit to give example in my stories, here is the one. Martin and Ella had a relationship full of passion and arguments. She knew, deep inside of her, that it will not work out cause he was a bossy, selfish and a narcissist. He was already divorced…