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Do you ignore your partner to show who is the boss?

I used to say a long time ago that ignorance is deadly weapon against your rivals , and sword in the heart of your beloved ones. If you want to hurt person, ignore her. If you want to get revenge, use ignorance. Now imagine situation when you are in relation and you have certain expectations from your partner. You wish to share daily problems with him. You wish to smile to stupid jokes and to get opinions about something you did or said. Your partner should have skills of listening, because person who can’t listen is deaf with purpose, and such partner is ignorant one. How ignorance works out in relations? You send him long text, he reply with disclaimer or short sentence. You talk about your day, he just say ok and yes. You call him and your speech is long, and he is just numb on other side or say something as “we will see. “ You realize that he did not listen you carefully, because he asked question which is already answered. You talk with your partner, and he stares in other people at t…
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What makes you happy?

Happiness is not the universal thing. What makes you happy will make me bored or even angry or sad. Priorities are different and that is why the source of good luck is not a global thing.
For me, happiness is a race.  I like to move and discover new challenges.  I like my space of privacy where is not everyone invited.  I like harsh jokes which make me smile that my belly pains from laugh.
I like the smell of fresh air.  I love greenery where my eyes are resting.  I like a hug of water when I am swimming.  I love when my beloved partner kisses me. I love when my favorite team wins a football match.
Happiness could be a big thing but also it is a collection of small things. Even happiness eliminates anger and heals sadness you will not experience a true happiness until you know a bitterness and frustrations.
Happiness is not a golden spoon but it feeds you as the biggest meal.
Happiness is sometimes invisible and silent as a ghost but you can hear a walk. 
Don't take an advantage of happiness c…

When passion dies?

How is possible that you feel a passion in the one moment and for some time that feeling dies?
Remember when someone attracted you in a way you felt like the drunk. He was a reason to smile and the source of your tears. You would give him everything.
Then something happened. He betrayed you. He humiliates you. He broke your honor by ignorance. He gave all to another person.
At that moment passion dies. The flame is watered by your spit. You feel a sickness when you see him. You feel a guilt because you let him to manipulates you.
In the second phase, you smile cause you got rid of him.  He lost his power to abuse you mentally. In the final phase, you look at him and there is no a reaction. The empty space replaced your obsession. Time bites memories so a big tooth destroyed your passion.
The result is a freedom. You are free from a self- destructive passion. In that way, your heart is healed. Your brain is free from a slavery.
You are ready for a real love. The real love will not allow a hum…

What is a blog without haters?

You never know who is reading your blog. Maybe you think you are unnoticed because millions of bloggers are in a blogosphere trying to make a success. Maybe you think that you will hide between many posts which jumps every day on the internet. I was thinking that too.
Then I found out that someone I know from the reality reads my blog. He said to someone else: "I follow her every day. This is so stupid to read." And another person said: " I think that is very interesting. She has the attitude. She doesn't use a sugar coating."  Well if something I don't like I don't read or listen or follow.  For example, I don't listen to Shakira and I don't follow her on social networks. I will not say she is stupid. Her music is not my type of music so I ignore.
So your fan zone might be divided. If someone follows you and criticize he is still a fan. A bad advertisement is still a promotion.
People will use your page to try a revenge if you kick them from your …

How to fight back when someone hurt you?

People will hurt you no matter how much good person you are. They will complain at your mistakes which you even did not know it exists. They will neglect your good side as it doesn't matter because they wish to see your fall. This is a reality and I accepted this a long time ago. Not all people are the same so sometimes you will get surprised with good hearts and good intentions, especially if a person doesn't ask anything for a return. When you meet a shining personality, don't give up on them.
I believed in a vengeance before, I even had an imagined blacklist of people who hurt me. I was happy when someone from that list got what he deserved. She passed her karma, he paid his bills. I was thrilled and then I realized, I am thinking about that people, I gave them the attention, even they hurt me. Why give them such award? Do they think about me, unless in a negative sense? Maybe they smile if they heard something bad or they simply ignore my existence?
Sometimes you can fix…

Tell him she is not the right one

Tell someone that his choice is a wrong one, he will be angry at you, especially if you are not close to that person. What is forbidden is indeed interesting because it is a part of the chemistry in a relationship. How many times your parents said you that you should not date with this guy or girl, because they are not enough good for you? How many time you listened to them? I guess you did opposite, according to your preferences and wishes, not accord their orders. A forbidden love has a special charm. That is why people involve into the affairs, to taste a forbidden zone. If you ask someone why he abandoned a safe marriage, he wanted to taste something out of his boundaries. Later he might regret, but the voice of unknown might prevail, and how to resist this? If you want to stop someone to date with the undesirable person, don’t say that person is not good enough. Say what you think and back off, later you will see the result. When Marianne started to date Dave, his mother said th…

Can you deal with a rejection as a mature woman?

He doesn’t respect me. I wish to kill him.  When the insecure woman doesn’t succeed in her intention to get the desired man, she will first talk about a respect. As respect is not a blind alley, it is not enough that you ask for a respect, you must give something to be respected. Every one of us met a man who doesn’t respond to our wishes for different reasons. You are not his type, he is already taken, he doesn’t want a relationship, he wants someone else. Just because your heart beats when a particular man appears, it doesn’t mean he feels the same. If you are a mature woman, you will walk away on the first sign of the rejection. I remember when I approached a man at a prom night, cause I liked him a long time ago. He gently rejected me, and I was drinking just to forget this. Many years later he wanted to talk with me, but I was not available more. I rarely meet him but we exchange greetings on the street because he did not do anything bad to me. I raised his ego, he hurt my pride …