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608. Temporary distance

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Quarrels are part of every relation. Until you are fighting and arguing, your relation is alive. Both sides want compromise, want to progress, to run for better situation. Even you are swearing, still you care about your partner because you want to prove him something. Quarrels are process of learning. On this point i don't think about physicall conflict with fist, on abusing or yelling that everyone in the street could hear your scream. I think about healthy, constructive relation where two parties debate and discuss about important problems in their relation.
Suddenly, one of them suggest silence. Temporary distance, tampon zone where nobody can cross and time is the main factor. 


So, it could involve next solutions:
I will sleep in another room.
Ok, you might leave common bed and sleep in separated room. You will not runaway, just silence is something what you need.
I will live in my flat or with my parents, for a while.
Well, define this deadline. For a while can't be too long t…

696. What we say in silence?

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I am talkative person, but once when i get silent, i can be numb forever. With years i learnt about power of silence, especially in situation when someone hurts you. Before i thought that silent people are weak and fragile, and i underestimated silence as tool of cowards. Recently one person hurt me. We were close friends, i gave him my trust, loyalty and confidence. He mixed this gifts with toys, and he acted like kids with borrowed dolls, he broke it. We had conflict , lot of insults were in the air, and it finished with silence from my side. I used silence and ignorance as my answer, because it would be endless conflict. Simply, i decided to finish this story with my poker face, while insults dropped as raindrops , i was standing and smiling in the storm of bullets. I know i won and this is what i said in my silence: I am busy with my success and i have no time for your frustrations. I am busy with people who love me, and i don’t have time for people who hate me. I burnt this bridge, wh…

695. How to treat immature jerk after breakup?

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Wise quote says: “About ex’s and dead people talk the best. ” When everyone should support this, breakups would be easier. Breakup by itself is hard thing, no matter how much compromises you got and how much time you spent in relation. Even relation faded or you started to feel boredom, when this moment come, one part of your life is over and you need to turn another page. There are few truths about breakups: You will see with whom you were in relation after he gone. You will see how much person respected you after he gone. You will see who is your replacement and that will be sign how much you meant to him. Mature men will never talk bad about women after their relation finished. Simply, accord their beliefs, that is private thing. It is not necessary to talk about this with other family members, with friends, or neighbors. Let’s forget and move forward. She was awesome, but she was not the right one. If you had bad luck to involve with jerk, things are different. Immature men …

694. Why changes are important part of life?

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How many times you heard words : “It is just a habit, quit this. ” When we stuck in kind of trouble caused by our addiction to someone or to something, we think there is no exit. Bad friends, bad lovers, bad job? You are overweight, too shy or you can’t find friends? Bad habit is part of every problem which should be changed. In the beginning is fear, in the middle is chaos but a the end is fascination. That is how i think when i changed some things in my life. Bad friends were falling as domino, one by one, even just before some times i was thinking i can’t live without them. Ex boyfriends , some i could not imagine life without them, are past today. I can’t remember that story which included them. How changes affect on us? Feeling powerful. Finally, your life is in your hand. Feeling stronger. Now, you are not a toy, you are person who will decide about you. Feeling independent. Now, others will not take your life in your hands. Feeling happy. You won over your fear and it makes you self co…

693. 5 myths about friendship with ex partner

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Broken glass is not available for drink. Broken plate is not available for food. What is with your broken relation? The moment when you broke up , your relation finished. Stay tuned, because maybe your partner doesn’t think so. After breakup women will cry, throw anger and maybe make revenge. It will happen immediately, cause broken woman’s heart is fragile and our mind could be crazy. Men are different, they will be quiet , enjoy in their new freedom or try to focus at work and friends. Suddenly, 3 weeks passed, you are brand new woman, and he called you. Now his time of suffering started, so he wants to be in your life again. Here is a trap. 5 myths about friendship with ex boyfriend might fool you, because his intentions are not clean. What kind of traps women fall the most? He used sweet words as bait. He wants you in his bed, but not again in his life. He wants to use you because he has some problems. Financial, maybe he wants money from you. Or he lost support of your mutual frien…

692. Boundaries between love and pride

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Can you draw a line between your feelings and pride? When is your proud act indeed manifestation of ego, and when is this vanity or stubbornness? When you did right thing, by standing behind your attitude? Think about your relation. You love your partner, but how you act in the case of conflict? Are you the one who always say “i am sorry” ? Or, you wait for him to apologize ? When conflict ruin your day, first what you think is how to establish harmony again. Will you swallow shits, for the sake of peace? Or, you will continue to hit with your sword? My opinion is that for love takes both sides. If we are together in peace and harmony, we will be together in arguments, too. If your partner is master of sweet words, but not even servant in conflicts, if he only says “all is your fault”, you can’t progress. I am proud person. It is very hard to humiliate myself, to say i am sorry when is obviously that i am not guilty. In the case of love, if i see that my partner is angry or sad, i am…

691. Conflict with man you love is the hardest exam

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Some people will remind you on harsh way why is necessary to love yourself first. Why is important to establish your values and not let anyone to cross your lines? Heart is fragile target and infatuation is blind road. Sometimes, we fall for those who are not on our level , or who wants to tame us into their world, to play accord their rules. The hardest opponent is the person you fall in love. I felt this on my own skin. If you have luck, you will survive misunderstanding with your partner and he will accept your values as part of you. If you don’t, you will get out from this impossible situation. When you fall in love, passion and self-respect could be on opposite sides. You met this guy, he attract you so much, he is amazing in bed, but soon you realize that he is not guy for long term. He doesn’t respect you. Once when man start to provoke you, to put you in the same box with other women who are really under your level, to ignore you and to show his muscles, you will see what is on …

690. Hunter stories

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Do you know about kind of guys who always gossip women after they slept with them? For sure , if you are woman you judged them and thought that they are monkeys or social trash. 
Imagine man's circle with few guys who are joking and laughing, and certain woman is subject of their topics.
"She was screaming as pig. " "She had hanged boobs. " "She did not wash her teeth. " "She was psycho, she called me hundred times after we broke. "
Hunter stories are familiar to men species. When someone asked Harry when he got laid last time, he said : "It was prostitute, i met her at club in Budapest. " After him, Billy said : "She was married and her husband was often at business trips. He was broker, so we got laid while he was not at home. I forgot my watch there so i had troubles later. "
How to recognize hunter story?
Guy can't prove that his lover girl even existed.
Guy repeat the same story, but with different details.
If someone ask …