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572. Lesson from respect

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Look your partner into eyes and say " i love you".  Now, next step.  What you talk about him behind his back, can you repeat this statement about love? Some moments in relation are hard. When he makes you cry , when he yells at you and you are angry, can you swallow this without complaints to third persons? I know that feeling when you want to share your daily problems with someone who is worthy of your trust. Maybe you talk about your husband even to neighbors, but is it necessary? Or, how much damage it cost you, if you share your problems on your social networks ? 
Some of us will say "So what, i have no secrets toward my friends. " Woman calls her mother to tell her how her husband doesn't want to clean desk after lunch, and that is normal. This is kind of situation when your relation is in the mirror, and everyone see what is happening in your house. Did you ever think that someone can use this against you?
I was always wondering how some of my friends find …

571. Distorted fantasy

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Our illusions cost us more than we think. It is hard to make compromise with something what is in our mind and real image. Connection between fantasy and reality is not always good, sometimes our mind is influenced with powerful deceptions. Modern technology is real master in deceiving our eyes so our perception is distorted, especially if we like person on photographs. We wish to believe that nobody is so cruel to play games with our hearts.

These days many young guys will push their luck to find soulmate on internet. What will attract young guy at first? Lovely woman on photo, profile full of shining pictures, kindness and sweetness. This kind of woman is virtual angel and realization of stories about princesses. So, if women were fooled by lies about money, social status, employment, muscles and cars, they are also not innocent angels. Maybe men fooled some women on internet, but women are champions in visual deceptions.
What to recommend guy who falls in love in internet? How to mak…

570. Mate poacher

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Did you lurk someone who is taken? Or someone lurked your partner, even that person knew that he is taken? Mate poaching is developed strategy how to make distance between two person in relation and to sit in other's place, with time. Imagine that you want to sit in VIP seats in cinema, but they are booked. So you can start fight that you reserved the same number and if you are enough aggressive maybe you win this seats. Similar thing happens with mate poaching, try to push other person in intention to get her partner. 
When relation got tempted, it depends on partners how strong is their love. It doesn't make difference is your opponent more rich, smarter or more attractive. The point is, how many holes exist in your relation. 

Why mate poaching is not rarity? Why to chase person who is already taken?


There are few reasons.
Person who is taken looks happy . Happiness attract people, and some of them think, i could be happy with her because she has ability to cherish relation.
Pers…

569. Wrong movie - how to survive as weirdo?

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Some people were born to act accord social rules. As they have drafts what to say or to do in particular situations. "He knows to behave" or " She is well educated" are just some of descriptions. When you fit in, you are safe from gossips and your circle of friends is big. Or, you just think on this way? If you are clumsy and simply stand out from usual patterns, you will have problem to be part of society, but your failures will help you to be more original.
Did you feel that you are part of wrong movie? Your personal twilight zone doesn't have to be your disaster. For example, if you stuck between female friends who knows all about baking cakes, and you wish to disappear, it doesn't mean that you are shame for woman species. I personally felt much better when i was drinking beer and watching football match Croatia - Mexico with my husband and male friends, when we all had so much fun even result was not good for us. I did not see myself with women who trad…

568. Asexuality - story about guy who can't fall in love

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Did you ever imagine world without sex? Did you imagine world without love and romance, touch and kiss, fast heartbeats? 1% people are asexual and they live in exactly this world, protected from love troubles and tears, but also without flame and passion for soul.  Asexuality is the lack of social attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. 


There are 4 types:
Person is not interested for romance, but person owes sexual instinct.
Person is not interested for sex, but person feels romantic attraction.
Person feels both, but not connected to each other.
Person feels nothing of that.
Also, there are differences, person could be born asexual or this is result of some past trauma. I see asexual person as transparent angel who will vanish if you touch him.  On some way i admire to asexual people , on other hand i pity of them.

Once i was jealous on my neighbor X who is asexual person. He was spared of broken heart. In that time, when i was very unhappy, when i passed through…

567. The martyr

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Life meals are sometimes bitter. It is not that everything is sweet as milk and honey. If you raised in happy family maybe life spared you from miserable moments, but the grudge will wait you later. Humans are on this world to taste fish oil because this is indicator of their firmness. Pain and sadness are not welcome guests, but some people will represent themselves as born to be unhappy. In some sick way, they enjoy to be martyrs, because this is the way to keep attention.
Do you know someone who is big martyr? Colleague from work, mother in law, your dear friend or even wife?
Typical day of every martyr starts like this:
" I must wash laundry because nobody will help me. I must cook lunch because my family will be hungry and they will yell on me. I must stay overtime at work because i will get fired if i don't do this. I can't watch my soap opera because my husband is watching football. I must make dinner for my guests because i owe them, last time me and husband were inv…

566. Deja vu mistakes

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Mistakes are part of life. When someone says that everything is going smooth all his life, that person lies, because reality is not video game. We never know what can go wrong and how many levels we need to skip for our score.
If you constantly learn on your mistakes, this price is very expensive. Sometimes is necessary to learn from others. Mistakes are problems with hidden chances and family roots. In your family is maybe person who failed in one situation, and now you are passing the same problem. Will you do the same or you wish to read previous book about this?
Louise had all chances for success. Pretty girl and talented teacher had many proposals for marriage, Problem was in her wild side, she was very stubborn and she left her home early, when she was 23. She found man and got marry for him, even he was only 19, not ready for marriage. She got pregnant so they lived in marriage for a year. He left her with excuse that he can't be father , he was too young. After this Louise f…

565. Pure past is not guarantee for devotion

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The day we found our perfect match was not day when we were born. That means, we care baggage in our relation, a bag full of past experiences. Mature partner will accept our past as it is, without judgments. He will ask questions, but after some time, it will all be forgotten. Happy couple will now make steps forward into better future.

Unfortunately, not all men are mature. Some men are insecure, rigid or just too selfish to accept fact that they were not first lovers. 

When man start to judge woman accord her past, it doesn't talk much about her. It talks about him and his attitude.

What kind of facts such man said about himself?
He is immature. 
He has double standards.
He is afraid of public pressure.  What will his friends say about that woman? What will his parents say?

He can't accept woman as she is . She must change, just for him, to be clean and pure.

He is naive. If woman was virgin or just with one lover, it doesn't mean she will not cheat. Pure past is not guarantee f…

564. Ultimatum - punishment without effect

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Did you ever say to your man : "Wash the dishes or you will stay without lunch tomorrow?" Or you took remote control and turned of television during football match because he did not listened to you? In this case, men talk about vixen and cuckold. This mean, you use ultimatums to get what you wish.
It is not bad to stand by your rights. Use attitude because you can't clap your hands every time when your husband or boyfriend do something what is not appropriate. Well, some women go in another extremity and try to get what they want with force. 


Kind of ultimatums which men despise the most:
" If you go out with your friends, you will not find me at home." " I will cheat you if you will not marry me. " " If your mother will come here at lunch, you will not see me anymore. " " If i see you again that you talk with this woman, i will call my ex boyfriend. " " Wash your plate or i will hide you remote control. " "I will not make …

563. Romantic vengeance - cold meal

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In the moment when someone hurts you, fire will go out through your ears. You will think just how to make paycheck and hurt for return. These situations are imminence. There will be always person who will not like you or provoke you from clear pleasure. What is important, that is your reaction where you don't wish to harm yourself.
Love is very sensitive area when we talk about vengeance. Is love vengeance has sense? You can't bring person back, because you would shit in your own mouth. Talking bad about person, then bring him back, that is just another chance for more pain. True solution is "i don't care " option.
I remember the guy who hurt me, before many years. He was ignorant and bad lover too. The soon i realized that he can't make me happy, i accepted this, but he left first. He did not say a word to me, he just stopped to call. One day we traveled in another city, with the same bus. Only seat next to me was empty, and he was sitting next to me. It was v…

562. Potential wife

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What was your dream when you were little girl? Did you dream about warm home, kids, good husband and dog? Or you had dream about many men under your feet, parties and journeys? As much this vision sounds irrelevant now, your life path will show that nothing is by coincidence.
The way of your thinking, clothing, talking is key for your destiny. If you stuck as mistress, it is not because Gypsy said a long time ago that you will never have luck in love. It is because your behavior attract such kind of men who are not able for relation, at least not with you. If you are wife, that is because you shown your serious intentions and men recognized this.
Diane is average woman, not pretty, not ugly, single mother with adult son. She used to say that she had no luck and that men are pigs. Well, if you look at her choice, she tried to make pie from craps. Her first man was immigrant from Africa who came into Europe for asylum. After Diane got pregnant, he returned in his country, because he was h…