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609. Pir's victory

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If you have mentality of winner, you will wish full taste of victory. In this case you are aware that victory is not just an opposite from defeat, this is indeed confirmation of your strength. If your rival is weak, injured and dead, if he lies on the floor, it is not funny to hit him. Who wants to play with dead dog? Who wants to make final kick in open target ?
I will use sport dictionary, so if you play tennis, Novak Đoković would be the most desirable opponent, and if you are footballer , Barcelona and Real would be big snacks for you. Victory as David against Goliath is crown of victories, so try to prove that you can push the biggest from their thrones. When Pir, king of Epir, won battle in Rome, he said that he doesn't need this victory, because more victories like these will make them lost. He got much damages and this victory was similar to defeat.
We are competitors to each other, our life is made from victories and defeats. Who will get better job, bigger salary, more kid…

608. Temporary distance

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Quarrels are part of every relation. Until you are fighting and arguing, your relation is alive. Both sides want compromise, want to progress, to run for better situation. Even you are swearing, still you care about your partner because you want to prove him something. Quarrels are process of learning. On this point i don't think about physicall conflict with fist, on abusing or yelling that everyone in the street could hear your scream. I think about healthy, constructive relation where two parties debate and discuss about important problems in their relation.
Suddenly, one of them suggest silence. Temporary distance, tampon zone where nobody can cross and time is the main factor. 


So, it could involve next solutions:
I will sleep in another room.
Ok, you might leave common bed and sleep in separated room. You will not runaway, just silence is something what you need.
I will live in my flat or with my parents, for a while.
Well, define this deadline. For a while can't be too long t…

607. Chivalry under construction

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The main fear of every man is that others will labelled him as cuckold. There is no bigger shame than man who is under his woman's skirt and jump on every order, as her dog. This is trap which every man wants to avoid, so in some cases he will choose other side, that is macho side.  When man is shaped by wrong beliefs, he will beat, insult and abuse his woman, just to show others that he is the boss in his house.
In old times differences between men are women were more clear. Woman was fragile, gentle side, man was strong personality who feeds her and family, and for return, she is cleaning, washing and cooking. Today, we created new type of man, who is not cuckold, but also he is not violent boss. He is kind of modern gentleman, updated knight and example of ideal man.


Well, where is the catch, and how your man should know that you don't expect from him to be your dog? 

Women make next mistakes in attempts to make their man as gentleman :
Look at your choice . 
Is this man created…

606. Why smart women pick bad guys?

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She is pretty, smart and successful. She is well educated and from good family. Yet, she constantly pick wrong men and on that way leaves impression as she is stupid woman. Her emotional intelligence falls down when she is dating a guy. 
Do you know such women? Maybe she is your friend, sister or someone you care about. She is in relation with men who doesn't deserve her, but he is not first man she failed. Simply, her choice is disaster.
People wonder why some smart women can't read bad guys and why they finish in bad relations. Why they are humiliated, abused , damaged by guys who are under their level. By default, they have all terms for great romance. Still, they pick guy who make them miserable.
The answer is : adrenaline. This feeling when your blood pressure raise and heart beats faster because he is near you. You will ask, why good guy can't give you adrenaline you wish?



If you are this type, there are 80% chances that you will date bad guy:
Problematic childhood.
Woman …

605. Emotional sterilization

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Dwell in past relation is not just sabotage of your future. Bad flash back could ruin your new feelings, and you might feel sterilized. This time i will not talk how to get over your ex. I will talk what happens after dramatic relation which eaten up your feelings. Side effect of destroying relation might be dangerous for your feelings, self confidence and self respect.
First i wish to mention red flags which helps to recognize your relation as destroying.

You fight with your partner and he doesn't spare your feelings. 
In this kind of conflict all is allowed. He will insult you until you faint.
He cheats you in front of your eyes and he doesn't care what you will say.
He is embarrassing you in front of your friends and family.
He doesn't know when is your birthday, he doesn't celebrate holidays with you and anniversary is not something what he wish to remember.
He doesn't care if his friends are interested for you or if they flirt with you.

Whoever was in that kind of rel…

604. Zombies in love

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The basic point of every fairy tale is magic stick . If you are beautiful fairy who holds this , you can turn frog into prince, poor guy into rich guy and bad guy into good guy. That dream sounds as realization of your hopes, and some women still make fantasies to change their boyfriends or husbands. "If he could change toward my wishes, i would have easier job." In reality, it doesn't works , because you can't change guy without losing his personality. Maybe he listened you and did some changes accord your wishes, but he is not the same guy you met. Now you have business with kind of zombie, lobotomized man who is not the one you loved. 
Every man is made of kind of buttons. If you press his positive buttons, you will be in harmony with him. If you press negative buttons all the time, your relation is more tragedy than romance. On this way we can explain why the same man is so good accord some women, and why other women can't stand him. Understanding and acceptin…