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How I understand love?

I never liked sentence: He is the air that I breathe. We talk in one mouth. He is my eyes and my ears. Even it sounds wonderful to have such connected soulmate, i love to read behind lines and hidden notes are not so romantic. If he is the air you breathe, it means you can’t breathe independently. You can’t walk without the leash and you can’t see more than he wants to show you. The healthy relationship is the connection between two strong, independent minds. I love my partner’s differences. I love his free space, i love his silence even he doesn’t want to let me into his world. I found this as adrenalin, as a challenge and i wish to dare. I offer something for return, i offer my hot temper and my wish for arguing. Even we sound like two lunatic, one numb and another mad hater, we will never get bored. I will try to smash his wall, and he will try to water my fire. Sometimes it looks like it is the third world war between us. We hate each other, we try to destroy all nice between us. Or …

Do you ignore your partner to show who is the boss?

I used to say a long time ago that ignorance is a deadly weapon against your rivals, and sword in the heart of your beloved ones. If you want to hurt a person, ignore her. If you want to get revenge, use ignorance. Now imagine a situation when you are in relation and you have certain expectations from your partner. You wish to share daily problems with him. You wish to smile to stupid jokes and to get opinions about something you did or said. Your partner should have skills of listening, because the person who can’t listen is deaf with purpose, and such partner is ignorant one. How ignorance works out in relations? You send him a long text, he replies with a disclaimer or short sentence. You talk about your day, he just says ok and yes. You call him and your speech is long, and he is just numb on the other side or says something like “we will see. “ You realize that he did not listen to you carefully, because he asked a question which is already answered. You talk with your partner, and he s…

Be careful with whom you are hanging out

A long time ago my mother told me : “Be careful with whom you are hanging out. ” She knew that my friend, who was 15 years old then, already have a boyfriend, who is 8 years older than she is. She saw them during summer holidays at river beach, how they cuddle each other without shame, in publicity. She said that she is not good company for me, because she is obviously experienced, and filthy. Few years ago i realized my mother has spoken truth. That friendship broke, because my friend X was indeed embarrassing person, without inhibitions and indeed selfish. After all, her boyfriend wanted to touch me once, when i was very young, and i was shocked with his behavior. That man was pervert, and she did not see that. They split later, as my mother knew what will happen. My parents never made differences between reach and poor, smart and limited, ugly or pretty people. Just, they always suggested me to care on my reputation. If you are associated with such people, they said, others will n…