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Are you a giver or a recipient?

One quote said: Be good to others and they will be good for you. The good act will be returned by another good act. I disagree with this because the world is not fair to place. In life, we will meet various people, and some will really appreciate good deeds and they will do everything to show appreciation and gratitude when you do something for them. This story has another side, about people who take others for granted. They are recipients, not givers. They constantly ask for donors, but rarely open their heart to do something for others. A very sensitive area for giving and receiving is love. When we fall in love and when love is not mutual, or at least is not equal, our limits will be very foggy. We can do things we never thought of before. We can suffer and handle such actions we never did. Passionate love can ruin our pride and dignity, and we will not be aware of this. At least, we did it for him, for her, for love of our life. Sheila really

Are you the adventurous type?

The little child tries to walk alone, without help. The first steps are painful, the result can be hurting knees and falling on the ground with tears. The child will not give up and this is the first risk in his or her life. Life is created in risky situations. In this game, we must lean on ourselves. It is nice to have a safety belt or someone you call always in the case of trouble, but sometimes you will stay alone with your desires and wishes. If you can handle your task alone, you are independent. Ruby wanted to see a new nightclub in her city but her friends were against it. They used to go to old places where all familiar people gathered every Saturday. She called all her girls, but one of them was sick, the others had a date with her boyfriend and the third stayed at home to learn for the difficult exam. Ruby was in dilemma, to stay at home or to go alone? She wanted to change and her wishes were stronger than her fear. She decided to go alone. That ni

How to push someone to make a final decision?

Million plans and wishes, and little time for realization. Life is short for all big dreams we wish to realize, and if we don't use every suitable moment, we are as gamblers who lost big amount of money. There is no worse thing than gambling with time. Something gone and that moment will never come back. Delay is the enemy of every action. As much we delay more time we will spend. One day we will stand in front of the wall, unable to jump over it, because it is too high. One of the ways to move in life is a syndrome of the last minute. When we stand and look into our last chance, the heart will beat very fast. So, this is it. Final chance to pass this exam or you will repeat the year. Last chance to propose that girl or she will leave you alone. Last offer at your work, take it or leave it. Adrenaline jump very high, you are pressured so what to do now? People react very differently in the time of pressure. I am one of the people who will react very positive

How to eliminate rage?

You are angry with your boss, friend, relatives? You want to kick some asses or to slap someone? This feeling is familiar to everyone. Even the calmest person has a moment of "yellow minutes" when the feeling of rage takes over. Whatever reason for anger was, we want revenge on the culprit, causer of this anger. Here is an imagined picture, black eye or tears on his eyes, that guy who deserves to be punished. I wish to make miserable this girl. How dare she, to make me angry like that? The feeling of anger has many sources. This comes out from disrespect or denials. It is not easy when someone underestimates our deeds and feelings, and when someone plays with us. When we can't fight back in a proper way, we are powerless. Yes how great it would be to slap my boss but I will lose a job in this case. I would spit on my doctor because I got an appointment with him and I waited 2 hours in the clinic, but I can't do it.  Savage people will have simple

Do you more give or take?

Quid pro quo, that is an old Latin proverb. It means, gives and take. If you ask for a favor, I will do it, but next time I will need feedback. If you don't want to help me I will consider you as selfish. Ask next time something from me and you will not get it. Human relations should be based on reciprocity, as we have two hands on one body. I give you love and I expect your love for return. I am loyal to you, I will not screw you, but also I am not a fool. If you think that I am not worthy of your respect and loyalty, for sure I will know this and you will lose my affection. A selfish person will hardly understand the meaning of reciprocity. So, I am used that others please to my wishes. It comes out from childhood. Mother made a cake for me but I don't want to wash dishes. She will wash instead of me. My friend did my homework because I did not know-how. She asked me to borrow her skirt, but I can't do this, I don't lend my clothes. A selfish person

Do you listen to the sound of the intuition?

There is something you need to do and suddenly you know-how. You have no skills and knowledge about certain things, but something whispers in your ear that you are on good way. That is the voice of intuition. Psychologist Gary Klein said that 90% of critical decisions we bring on the basis of intuition. When we are on the crossroad, intuition is an additional feeling we can lean on. How many times we heard "my feeling inside never lie" or "I felt something is wrong" or "I had this signal that everything will be ok. " Previous signs can warn us before some bad events. You are going on a journey but somehow you feel unpleasant pain in the stomach. You can't explain the source of it and how it happens, but it follows you all the time. Dorothy was traveling in Spain. On beach Costa Brava she lost her money and documents, indeed someone stole her purse. She was swimming and when she came back her things just disappeared. She had big problems

Why our mistakes are lessons?

We are born clumsy. You try to walk and you will fall. Try to swim and you will swallow water. Your heart will skip a beat from fear that you can get drown. Nobody learned everything about life immediately, at the first moment. Some people are learning fast, others are behind them. What is in common,  people are not robots and not perfect. This means we will do plenty of mistakes in every field. I remember when I wanted to learn to type on a keyboard with 10 fingers. This skill of typing I needed to make my job easier. I was in a mess and very slow. Later it was very useful so it saved my time.  Mistakes are part of your life. Who will learn, work, and participate in anything that can't avoid mistakes? What is bad is judgment and contempt.  " Oh, you are retarded. You don't know this? How you don't know simple and basic things?" Every skill starts with a mistake. You will eat a bitter meal when you are cooking for the f