How to gain the respect?

There is a quote: respect is hard to get and easy to lose. Respect is based on all areas of life. If someone loves you, he must respect you, there is no real love without respect. If you have no respect in your friend circles, your friends are fake. Also, when you have no authority at work, it means you are disrespected.

Some people are born to be respected, but others must work hard to gain respect. Imagine a woman with big breasts and children face in business circles. She must try hard to get respect for her cooperators. The human mind is superficial and very often people will not think of her as a business lady. Stereotypes are obstacles on the way to respect because it is hard to change what is in other's heads. You can help yourself in this situation, to teach people what they can't do. If you wear dirty clothes, if you swear until you are talking, your message is clear: "I don't expect respect from you."

Barbara was a really sexy nurse and nobody gets her serious. Even some doctors had a habit to pinch her or comment her big decolletage. One day it was enough, and she replied properly on the joke about her. When she was sitting, her boss said: "You can open legs more to see your panties. " She replied: "At your age, I would buy bigger glasses. "

It was a scandal but she earned respect as in prison, in a harder way. Sometimes we must play games to earn respect. Sometimes we will be in a situation to slap a person who shows disrespect.

The same is on social networks. There are so many traps where people can feel disrespected. When someone adds you and ask for sex on camera, this person is bad-mannered. Delete and block, because, so pity you can't slap him or her. Unfortunately, social networks are the lair of disrespectful people and they have all the freedom to express this.

If you want that others show respect, you must have self-respect. Don't let people make bad jokes with you, to spit on you without punishment. Some people learn in a hard way, the same as a donkey who needs a paddle to behave. There is a difference between joke and provocation and this boundary is connected with respect. If you think you don't deserve respect, others will feel this and you will not get what you ask for.

Start with yourself and your respect will grow day by day. One of the most important things which you need to know is how to use NO and YES. In your mind is a list of what you allow, and what is forbidden. Surround yourself with people who respect you, because respect is a chain. Once when you wear an invisible crown, others will know that they can't mess with you.

Should we respond to negative reviews?

Recently I had a discussion in my social media about negative ratings. There was a situation in Goodreads, where I got two negative reviews on my two books. The point was in the way how the ratings were set up. First rating for my book "Body in the waves" was placed under 5-star review from another reviewer. While the reviewer praising my book, the troll came under to say "This is really bad book." Second rating was described as " Poor author needs writing lessons." Both reviews broke standards of reviewing, because there is no visible evidence that book was downloaded in Kindle unlimited or purchased. It was a clear troll act from a new page, without a profile photo and with a nickname. I reported this to Goodreads and they responded me they are processing this. Meanwhile, I heard from other authors that Goodreads failed to do anything about trolling. In these terms, Goodreads should delete such profiles and forbid the access because of breaking rules. T...

Swapping books - a devil's deal

"I will read your book if you read and review mine." This is an example of author's deal when it comes time for reviews. Reviews is hard to get. If you sell books, it is still not guarantee you will get reviews. If I could get a review for every book I sold, it would be great. People will buy book to collect it on the shelves and leave it un-read. Or, they will read but not rate it. Many reasons are for not getting reviews, but some people don't know where and how to write reviews or are not eligible. That is the reason why authors will turn to other authors, with a proposition for review. The danger of such review is on Amazon rules: author can't review other's author books on request. I love to read indie authors and they inspire me, but I have my circle and I never accept offers to read someone I never heard about. Once I got a proposition :" Hey, I saw your review for XX author, can you write it for me, too?" I ignored it. When you have a deal ...

Why is refund damaging indie authors?

I understand someone can be disappointed with a book. It is like I was disapointed with my trousers online and returned it. What makes a difference, my trousers were 40 euros. The book was 2.49 cents. This makes return funny, because what can you do with this money? Some readers don't understand story behind the refund. The author will get minus royalties. - 0.13 c in my Kindle report, that will vanish when someone else buy the book. The situation happens. Someone accidentaly clicked and bought a book. A random customer wants a refund. Maybe it was not a random move. Maybe the customer clicked, bought and did not like the book. When you don't like the book choose another options, instead of damaging authors. Write a negative review. Write negative one star rating. Don't purchase another books from this author. Or, maybe to reconsider and read it, again? If you write negative reviews or rate it with 1 or 2 stars, you are making a favor to authors. You are moving algorithms i...

Rebelious rules by Kristina Gallo

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