When your friend is a man, you must set up your boundaries. Especially if your friend is your ex-lover or boyfriend.
Sometimes a man will not accept the word NO as an answer to his desires, but the word MAYBE will get him confused. For example, you want friendship; he wants a relationship. You want respect; he wants sex. You maybe want it later, but he is not ready to wait, and he doesn't have patience.
If you once accepted him as a lover, you may change your mind. Carmen and Oliver had a short adventure. The next time they met, she was not in the mood to make love with him. Everything was fun on the first date, but he was cheap now in her eyes. She felt she deserves more. She wanted conversation, admiration, and respect, and Oliver offered just his unzipped pants. His behavior was unacceptable. Even worse, he looked lame in her eyes, like he lost dignity. He was like an animal, and she was not in a mood to deal with animals. It was too raw and primitive for her taste. It disappointed Oliver. What happened? She liked it for the first time, but now, she was not the same woman. Like her evil twin came at the date to chill him out.
Sometimes, men and women are not at the same level. Their state of mind is different. If you both don't want the same, it should be told. What happens if you don't know what you want?
If you don't have an idea about your feelings, sit and think about it.
How do I feel about this guy?
Do I feel guilt or attraction?
Do I feel humiliated or desirable?
What can I get from this?
Before you answer his question, answer it on your questions. Women have phases when they don't know exactly what they want, and if they go into a flirt or relationship for the wrong reason, they will make a man mad.
Sometimes, women only want to confirm their value on the market, forget ex-lovers, or compete with other women. Sometimes they like a guy initially, but they give up better when they know him better because something is missing. The higher your standards are, you will hesitate when something is missing.
If you feel butterflies in your stomach, these are signs of his message causing a short breath. If you see only him in your dreams and there is no replacement, then he is the real match, and he deserves an opportunity.
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