You can't depend on other's support

Looking for a new job? Searching for a partner? Fighting with workmates? These are all situation that needs support. People are like that, they expect someone to hold their side, but it doesn't happen like they imagine.

You can't depend on others' support because even if you get it, it will be temporary. People are used to changing sides, and once you did something wrong, your support will vanish.

If you are an ordinary person who is not well-positioned in the business world or if you are not rich, you can't count on many people.

Remember the facts:

People usually avoid being involved in others' conflicts.

Someone will support you if you give something to him. Give money, return the favor.

You will get support if you have a common enemy.

Your support must have more power than your enemy, otherwise, it is useless.

I learned a long time ago, whatever I do, I must learn at myself at first. Everything else is a bonus or a surprise. I did my best results when I was alone.

Now, there is a second thought of this problem. Do you think you will get support from your friends by default? Maybe you think my friends must give me support, otherwise, what is friendship for?

Remember that everyone thinks about himself and his urges. Sometimes, your wishes could be in confrontation with the wishes of your friend. Automatically, if you don't look in the same direction, you will not get support.

Even worse, your wishes could be the same as your friend's wishes. You want the same job or the same guy. Can you get support from your best friend if you like the same guy? Suddenly, your friendship will turn into rivalry overnight.

So if you ask me how to get support, there is no forced way. It must be spontaneous when someone recognizes your dreams and ideas as something worthy. Similar people gather accord similar interests, and when you click, you will connect.

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