Skip to main content

You can't change a man's personality



There is a quote: You can't bake a cake from shit. That is how is with a man's nature: you can't change a bad personality.

If you are hanging out with a man who is primitive, uneducated, and promiscuous, you can't expect to turn him into a noble gentleman. 

Women who claim to change a man's personality, lie.

They live in illusion because if the change happened, it is not because they did it.

Reasons why men change their attitude are:

They passed through a bad breakup or divorce.
They got old.
They feel lonely.
They are mature and tired of games and flirting.
They fall in love with younger women.


When his time comes, a man will do basic things to change his approach to relationships. He could pretend to catch young women, rich women, or get rid of bad habits. Sometimes, this is cruelty: he was using women for sex in the past, now he is acting like a gentle daddy to his child. Women will be mean and said "I was the right one, I made a man from him", but this is not true. 

A man in his twenties is not the same as a man in his forties. Why do many marriages fail when a man marries too young? He was not ready for obligations, kids, hanging out with relatives, bills, and daily routine.
When my neighbor, a young married couple with a little kid argued, he said he can't stand his wife is yelling and barking. He did not use it. He was drinking, having fun in the nightclubs and now he is constantly hearing screaming children and his nagging wife. 

A frightened man will change when he gets old. Now there is no woman to take care of him, his sexual power is limited and he will accept conditions just to avoid loneliness. This happens when a young woman is in the game, the old man will do everything to keep her, even to be her toy. 

Not every man is the same, so some will stay single because they did not accept obligations. Their lifestyle includes flirting, drinking, and friends, so this is how they like it. 

Change is not an act of the magic sword. This happens inside or never happens. 

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

The book based on true events

  A paperback version is on Amazon.  Genre: Contemporary romance, young adult short novel Place of action: Croatia Alert : based on true story The blurb:   Valentina lives in a small town. The priorities for women are to get marry in twenties.  Fighting with prejudices, Valentina has an open relationship with a local hooligan. The love story will develop in a wrong direction. Valentina will learn important life lessons. The review: Clear, sharp, legible, written in Kristina's recognizable style. An interesting, powerful, instructive story - when an intelligent woman falls in love with a bad man. This is a real-life story that happens to many women. The story shows that intelligent women and common sense are not immune to falling in love with bad men and the thought that they can change them. A love story that is not really a romantic story. Love is one-sided. Love is stronger than reason, but until a moment when everything has changed. Purchase link:  Seduced by...

Should we respond to negative reviews?

Recently I had a discussion in my social media about negative ratings. There was a situation in Goodreads, where I got two negative reviews on my two books. The point was in the way how the ratings were set up. First rating for my book "Body in the waves" was placed under 5-star review from another reviewer. While the reviewer praising my book, the troll came under to say "This is really bad book." Second rating was described as " Poor author needs writing lessons." Both reviews broke standards of reviewing, because there is no visible evidence that book was downloaded in Kindle unlimited or purchased. It was a clear troll act from a new page, without a profile photo and with a nickname. I reported this to Goodreads and they responded me they are processing this. Meanwhile, I heard from other authors that Goodreads failed to do anything about trolling.  In these terms, Goodreads should delete such profiles and forbid the access because of breaking rules. T...

Swapping books - a devil's deal

  "I will read your book if you read and review mine." This is an example of author's deal when it comes time for reviews. Reviews is hard to get. If you sell books, it is still not guarantee you will get reviews. If I could get a review for every book I sold, it would be great. People will buy book to collect it on the shelves and leave it un-read. Or, they will read but not rate it. Many reasons are for not getting reviews, but some people don't know where and how to write reviews or are not eligible. That is the reason why authors will turn to other authors, with a proposition for review. The danger of such review is on Amazon rules: author can't review other's author books on request. I love to read indie authors and they inspire me, but I have my circle and I never accept offers to read someone I never heard about. Once I got a proposition :" Hey, I saw your review for XX author, can you write it for me, too?" I ignored it. When you have a deal ...