Where is empathy nowadays?

One simple thing can make you smile and your day will be better. As much as your mood is bad or sad, something will capture your attention and you will forget your troubles, even for a moment.

I went to the shopping mall to buy some food for dinner. I met a man with a bloody face; he asked for more beer. I suppose he fell, or he got hard kicks from someone, but the impression was like in horror movies. Freddie Kruger is in the shopping, walking around without purpose. People were in fear. What will that creature do to break something or find some victim? Is it necessary to call the police?

The guy took empty bottles for money and went out, like nothing happened, with his bloody face. It seems he had no mirror on his way home.

This event showed something else.

Nobody cares, only in case of scandal people will ask what happened.

I mean, wf, that is an only drunk dude, who asked one more bottle of beer. His face was bloody, so what? Probably he fell on the ground because he is drunk and clumsy.

When I saw him, I thought "here comes the man who cares more for beer than for his face." What makes him so ignorant for the entire world, how he stashed his problems in a beer bottle? Maybe he has an unhappy marriage with the mad wife or nasty kids who spent all his salary, or his fiance broke relations and get married to another man?

So, thinking about him, about an alcoholic man who shows up in the market, I thought also about myself. Still, my problems have solutions because I noticed him even I was so angry that day. That is a kind of paradox, I saw someone with bigger problems, who don't care for anything other than a beer bottle. Sometimes, you must see the bottom, to care for the things on the top. If you wish to stand firmly on the ground, clean your mind. Don't let others notice that you are miserable or destructive. People will not feel sorry for you, their empathy is not limitless. Probably they will laugh or ask what is going on, to please their curiosity. If you wish to pull attention with scarves on your face or tears or yelling, remember that nobody cares.

Empathy is here, somewhere in the corner. Empathy is selective, and for sure it will not choose desperate people. Help yourself and others will help you too.

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