Rebelious rules by Kristina Gallo

If you are an indie author, you will publish independently your books. Probably you have no experience with traditional publishing, or you are rejected by publishers.  You will build your reader's base and promote your books. You will make your book cover by yourself, or you will hire professional cover designers. You will pay an editor. After your book will be published, you will ask for reviews. There are millions of indie authors around the world. Many will not sell more than a few books and your investment will not be effective. Some authors will give up, others will follow their passion. In your path to success, you will fall into some traps. I know that from my experience. Aware of the next traps: Fake promises . Some authors will offer you a review swap. It is punished by Amazon, by deleting these reviews. Also, even if you review other's author's books and expect the same, it is not guaranteed that the author will review your book as reciprocity. Unwanted advice. S...

Friendship is a kind of relationship. Two people are hanging out, sharing secrets, and keep each other’s back. Their characters are various and they were raised in different surroundings. Yet, they complete each other and enjoy spending time together. Friendship breaks like a relationship. People split, they separate, and the result is, they don’t talk anymore. Sometimes, they don’t greet each other in the street. They start gossip with each other and it is possible that the former friendship turns into an enemy zone.  Now, why this happened? Not that we hate our friends overnight. It is not we pretended liking and affection.  This is something else. Where do you mistake? I will help you with this. Did you agree with your friend every time? Did you clap your hands on everything he did? Did you support his every action, even you disagreed with this? Did you let him choose your other friends and your priorities? See, here you made a mistake. Even you are a loyal friend, never be...

There is a quote: You can't bake a cake from shit. That is how is with a man's nature: you can't change a bad personality. If you are hanging out with a man who is primitive, uneducated, and promiscuous, you can't expect to turn him into a noble gentleman.  Women who claim to change a man's personality, lie. They live in illusion because if the change happened, it is not because they did it. Reasons why men change their attitude are: They passed through a bad breakup or divorce. They got old. They feel lonely. They are mature and tired of games and flirting. They fall in love with younger women. When his time comes, a man will do basic things to change his approach to relationships. He could pretend to catch young women, rich women, or get rid of bad habits. Sometimes, this is cruelty: he was using women for sex in the past, now he is acting like a gentle daddy to his child. Women will be mean and said "I was the right ...

Before 2 days I got a message from a guy 20 years younger than me. I could literary give him birth. A kid is playing on Instagram and he bragged how MILF sent him messages. MILF's are women in their forties who are hot, and hungry for pleasure, accord his words. He thought he can start this kind of conversation with me. He pretended that he likes my books, even I know he did not read even a magazine. A millennial guy is busy collecting followers and likes, he has no time for books, because that is boring and old-fashioned. I always saw a real man as someone who doesn't spend much time in the virtual world, unless it gives him earnings. Real men are busy making money and working, they are not young virtual gigolos who wait for desperate women to show their naked dicks.  Yet, some brats ask for an easier way to get sex, virtual or real. They don't need a car to pick up a girl. They don't need money to buy her a drink. All that they need is a fast i...

Be good to people and they will fool you. True or not? There is a story about a man who accepted a snake in the house, and a snake bites him. While he was dying, he asked: "Why did you do this?" "Because I am a snake" she answered. This old legend talks a lot about human nature. You need not show your soft heart and gentle manners to everyone, hoping to receive it back.  The trouble starts when people remember you as a nice person. You are always available to make someone smile . To do favors. To get up in the middle of the night if your doorbell rings. Now, your boundaries are crossed , and you ride a broomstick. The witch is here, how so? You had too much on your plate and it is time to kick asses. People on your list: A friend who calls you only when he needs something. A lover who uses you only for sex. The boss asks you to work overtime when nobody wants this. The neighbor who makes noise even you warned him more times. People coul...

What happens when a man finds a woman equal to him? It means she can reply sharply to his demands and she will not obey. Usually, alpha men did not use such women, because they prefer gentle ladies who will shut up and smile in accord with their wishes. Ken and Tina always found a reason for conflict. He was egocentric and believed he knew everything the best. Tina has a good education, and she is hot-tempered. She could not allow a man to underestimate her. Even though they argued, they attracted each other. Ken learned to give her respect, and Tina learned to stay silent when it is necessary. How to seduce the alpha man? Let him believe that he is the boss. Stay calm. Alpha men don't like hysterical women. Surprise him by giving him an opportunity to negotiate. His ego will be pleased, and I will not destroy your dignity. Smile and believe in yourself. A woman who smiles is sexy. I turn the crying woman off. Don't follow him if he did...

In your life, people will reject you. They will say NO because there is no spot for you in someone's life. It happens. People are like in a puzzle game, sometimes you are the piece that doesn't fit in. Your attitude matters. It is not the same as how you accept rejection.  If you yell, scream or treat with revenge, you are childish. If you cry or beg, you are desperate. If you swallow this in silence and don't look back, you are mature. During life, you will lose business opportunities. You will lose partners for relationships. You will lose friends. Even if you are very smart and exquisite, there will always be someone who will say NO. Do you think you can have every man if you are a beautiful woman? You are wrong. Rejection doesn't have to be in NO form, always.  This is also NO between lines: I want you, but only temporarily and sometimes. I want you, but only in my bed. I want you, but only as a second choice. ...

She made him feel purer. He felt urged to change his lifestyle. Behind him were a bunch of women, but many of them were dirty. A long time ago he was in this desperate club. There were people who were drowning, and nobody gave them a straw. Any woman was welcomed to his arms. It doesn't matter if she was old, poor, ugly, stupid, or mean, she was a woman gender and all this mattered.  That relationships were a field of damage for him. His friends, family, watched over him like he has a plague. Nobody liked to socialize with him at his workplace because his reputation was not good.  One day she came. She was distanced, but without any judgment. She knew how is to feel isolated, so she accepted him as a man. He recovered to her his wonderful soul. His loyalty, kindness, well-mannered behavior was not just a mask. It was a skin he recovered only for her because she stood on his side. She defended him in front of the judgmental crowd.  These women were hun...

We are struggling with various problems. Someone can't be slim. Diets are not working out. Someone can't find a partner. Someone hates their job. We are sometimes in a situation that needs a way out, but the gate is not here. The worst thing you can do is to mark yourself as a loser. "I need to die." "I am not worthy, I can't do it." If you make statuses about this is social media, you will not get useful advice. You will get pity, mockery, or preaching. Remember, people don't know you personally, and they will run away from you because you don't like yourself, so how you could gain their affection? Too much positive attitude is also irritating, so these words make me nervous: The sun will shine for you too. Your time will come. Smile, life is short. Instead of this, I prefer to say: I am struggling, but I am in the race. It is not perfect, but I can well. I am not in a good mood, but things will ...

It is not an accident that people treat each other differently. What kind of reaction you get depends on how you behave or does your energy match another's personal energy. Some people can't stand you at first sight. There is something that reminds them of someone else, or your personality is not desirable. I know a woman from my neighborhood who loves cats, but she is very irritating. She did nothing bad to me, but her voice and appearance irritate me.  Imagine a situation when a guy treats you badly, but he adores another woman. It is because you press his "bitch button" even you are not aware of this. Laura was not a favorite at her workplace. She was almost antisocial because she could not fit in this community. Women were talking about hairdressers, recipes for cakes, or weather. They asked her about pregnancy and commented on her unusual clothes. Laura was pretty, but not popular because she was on distance, silent, and sassy if someone wou...

Everyone gets angry. Me, too. I am swearing, using bad words when I get angry. This is a chemical reaction that is stronger than mine, and I can’t help with this. If you ask me, are there results in this kind of communication, the answer is no. Well, if you ask me, will I do it again, I would say yes. The reason insults are bottom of communication is simple. If someone pushes me to this level that I use insults, I just showed my weakness. It means I can’t control my reactions and words, and my provocateur is winning. Recently someone offended me. I returned his favor, but this conflict is not over. It looks like an endless fight where is no winner. It is more painful because I believed in that person. I had trust in him; we shared our life stories. Now, our communication is based on insults. Who will handle more, or who has dirtier imagination? If this is a battlefield, bullets would fly around. I always had a low opinion about men who insult me, especially if I were n...

Do you know the statement “be happy with small things if you can’t get big things”? Someone who was not ambitious made this like comfort for all frustrations and unfilled wishes. The modest person will say that you need to be happy: Because you are alive. Because you have no health problems. Because you have a meal and a warm shelter. I agree with this because everyone starts with a basic thing, and we should appreciate what we have. Just appreciation doesn’t mean that you don’t have to go further. If that satisfaction with small things stop you from progress, this statement is wrong and your obstacle to success. If you live in your safe cage and never travel out of your city you are happy but you will always wonder: “What if?” Imagine that you changed your life, but this means a risk, step forward from your comfort zone, and maybe a danger? If you are not ambitious and aware of the risk, you will stay safe, but your full potential will be undefined. Once my f...

Your partner is your choice. He is your source of joy or sadness, problems, or enjoyment, whatever takes. Recently I read a story about conflict on the Instagram profile. Domagoj Vida, a famous Croatian football player, is married to Ivana, ex-Miss Universe of Croatia. She is very active on Instagram and a follower said to her that her husband is ugly and that she has a good stomach because she is his wife. She replied harshly and searched for the address of the mean follower, which was a woman. People are mean. Also, people got jealous and envious when someone got rich or became famous. They are asking for flaws and imperfections because when a person is the center of attention; we focus all eyes on him or her. I would say differently if I were in Ivana's place. I would say that I adore my husband and that he would not touch that mean girl even with a stick from the far. People who are asking for imperfections on other's partners have serious problems. If s...